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Why you Should include Walking in your Workout Routine.

Even if you take short walks, the physical benefits of exercise will boost your emotional well-being. In addition, regular walking can help ease symptoms related to chronic mental health conditions like anxiety and depression.

Walking is free! You can walk anywhere without equipment or a gym membership, and the more you do it, the more positive effects you’ll experience.

Build lean Muscle

There are muscle-building benefits of walking.

People who ramble/hike/take serious walks, and run marathons, they have such lean and shapely legs. Do you want lean and shapely legs? When it comes to staying fit, yet, many people believe that walking will make your legs bigger. But unlike the general perception, larger legs are caused due to stored fat rather than muscle. The fact is that when legs lose fat, it’s about shedding weight – right?

Walking makes your leg muscles work, and they will grow a little. But that’s only temporarily because the muscles swell to take in nutrients and remove the waste. The swelling vanishes within 30 minutes to an hour. Therefore, to build muscle mass or tone muscles in your legs, you must participate in consistent strength training. Weight-training exercises, such as squats, lunges, step-ups, deadlifts and calf raise, target the muscles in your lower body.

Incorporating steps or hills into your walking routine may provide ( depending on the person) a temporary minor muscle development. A good way to do this is with an inclined treadmill. But the muscle size increases are likely to plateau rather quickly, because your muscles will adapt to stress after a short time, and thus the walks will no longer provide enough of an overload.  So, why should you incorporate walking in your workout regime?

The Benefits of Walking

There are numerous benefits of walking, and some of them are… 

  • Improved sleep
  • better breathing
  • Better endurance
  • Stress relief
  • Improvement in mood
  • Increased energy and stamina
  • Reduced tiredness can increase mental alertness
  • Weight loss
  • Reduced cholesterol and improved cardiovascular (heart) health.

Walking helps boost your mood by increasing blood flow and blood circulation to the brain and body. It positively influences your hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which is your central nervous response system. The HPA axis is responsible for your stress response. When you exercise by walking, you calm your nerves, making you feel less stressed.

You can invite friends to join you or take your dogs for a walk. Walking with others as little as one or two days per week can have enormous benefits. Research has shown that physical exercise combined with positive social interactions can improve negative moods, ward off depression, improve self-esteem, and thus energize your physical body. Start by walking three days a week for 10-30 minutes.

How to Create a Walking Routine

One of the best ways to begin a new walking routine is to start small and take it easy on yourself as you gradually build up endurance.

To ensure the best injury-free experience, choose stable walking shoes and before you leave home, stretch your legs, ankles, and feet to warm up. If you have one, take your mobile phone in case of energy. If it’s a little warm out and your walking some distance, take a water bottle to avoid dehydration.

Start at a relaxed pace, then build up to a brisk walk. Toward the end of your walk, give yourself time to slow down again, bringing your heart rate down.

Each time you go out, carve out a comfortable walking route, then extend your distance over the next few days or weeks.

Give yourself goals to reach and celebrate your wins. Remember, it’s not always about the length of your route. It’s also about the quality of the walk and the benefits you get from doing it consistently.

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She Studies the BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK and is a life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.
 
 Paula Rose Parish is a Pastor, Author, and founder, of Hope. Faith. Love, and Your Wellness Matters. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years, Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counsellor, and coach and taught at a Christian university. In addition, she has led workshops and retreats and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality. 
 
Author of over 200 articles and two published books, Paula Rose, continues to write on the wellness of mind, body and spirit. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren and lives in South Wales, UK.
 
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Two main Benefits for Drinking Water proved by science!

Health Benefits of Drinking Water.

For a lot of people, water is hard to swallow. I think it may be that many are brought up on drinks other than water and have never got used to drinking it as a daily beverage. 

Also, in some parts of the world, the water has a ‘funny’ taste may be due to the chemicals added to kill bacteria or added fluoride……Read full article below

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For example, at one time in my life, I lived in an Australian country town where the only water we had was ‘bore water’. Bore water came from underground and was pumped to the surface by wind towers. It was a rust colour and unfit to drink. It is rich in iron but leaves residue wherever it is used. In those cases, bottled water is available. But that was in the day before bottled water was available, so we had to drink it boiled and strained. It still tasted ‘awful’, so we would add cordial or just drink tea or coffee. 

So, these circumstances lead people not to drink water. I remember as a child at school. We would have’ outside drinking troughs, that were exposed to the direct sun- with a row of taps. When the temperature soared well above the 80s, it got super-hot at school, and we got thirsty. The only water available to us were these water troughs. The water that came from the taps, was often warm due to the constant sun on the pipes. It made us sick, and I always remember having headaches due to dehydration. So as an adult, I had to teach myself to drink water.

 Now, after trial and error to how best for me to enjoy it, I drink at least 1 litre of pure water daily. I now live near the mountains of beautiful southwest Wales, and it has one of the world’s best and pure water coming out of the taps. I put it through a Brita filter then fill a litre jug up for the day. Often I add a sprinkle of some chlorophyll as it is good for cellular health.

So, why is water essential for us to drink daily? 

Here, I point out a few reasons that may help you to get into the habit of drinking water

  1. Drink a tall glass of water to hydrate first thing in the morning- Why?

Since your body is about 60% water, you need to drink the stuff!

It’s considered an essential nutrient for your overall health, meaning that your body cannot produce enough of it by itself to meet its daily needs.

Therefore, you need to get it through foods — especially drinks — to ensure proper bodily function.

All of your organs and tissues depend on water, which affects your body this way…. 

  • Nutrient transportation.  Water allows blood circulation, transports nutrients to your cells and removes waste. If you don’t get enough water, the waste will build up in your cells and organs, bringing with it a myriad of health issues.
  • Thermoregulation.  Water helps to regulate your body’s temperature. Due to water’s large heat capacity, it limits changes in body temperature in both warm and cold environments.
  • Body lubrication.  Did you know you need good lubrication? Water helps lubricate joints and affect all micro membrane (which your body is full of); water is an essential element of your body’s lubricating fluids, including saliva and gastric, intestinal, respiratory, and urinary mucous – the list goes on. In short, if you don’t hydrate enough, you will dry out and dry up!
  • Shock absorbency.  Water helps you to ride those bumps- literally! Water acts as a shock absorber, protecting your organs and tissues by helping maintain cellular shape. So drink enough water to keep you in shape! 
  • Drink lots of water throughout the day – Why?

Your body loses water daily through sweat, breath, urine, and bowel movements. These are known as water outputs. Suppose you don’t take in enough water to make up for these losses throughout the day. In that case, it can lead to dehydration, which is associated with many detrimental health effects – including lousy breath- YUK!

Drinking water during the day helps with your water balance and implies that water inputs must be equal to water outputs to avoid dehydration. This is because your brain floats in water- yes, it really does…

If you are dehydrated, your brain will be too. This can cause headaches, brain fog, and in severe cases, the neuropathways will block or die, causing some form of dementia. 

There are many more reasons to drink water for your health- but I will cover this another time.

So, is it important to drink pure, clean water daily? The answer is a resounding YES!

I drink water that through the day with other beverages. This ensures that I create the habit of drinking water that I can’t do without. Some people drink hot water because it warms them up. But I can’t stomach that, so it’s cold water for me for sure. 

 I hope you will take up this habit of drinking water as well. Once you get used to it, I am sure you will feel and look absolutely fabulous! 

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Understanding Your Health – What is Metabolism?

The dictionary defines metabolism as a biochemical process involved in health or sustaining life. Metabolism is related to nutritional intake and our ability to utilise our food to the fullest extent.

Some people have a high metabolism, which means that when they consume food, their bodies burn it almost as fast as they consume it.

Then some use to burn calories slowly, yet others burn calories quickly. Those slow-burners tend towards obesity. On the other hand, the fat burners are often slim and trim regardless of how much they eat.

Metabolism is a unique process for each person, and no two people have the same. We all use our calories at different rates with different results. Our metabolism is like fingerprints which are unique to each of us. We need to understand our metabolism and how it works to know what’s best for our overall health.

Metabolism is also related to our vitamin, mineral intake, and water consumption. It is also related to our thyroid and endocrine production.

People seek to raise their metabolic rates through supplements, increased water intake, and adjusting food and exercise intake. It is possible to raise your metabolic rate; however, what may work for one person may not work for another.

Our goal should be to improve our overall health and well-being. To want to improve one’s health is a worthy goal if we remain as well and active well into old age. However, it would help if you raised it significantly to see any benefits, no matter your metabolic rate.

Metabolism can also be determined by genetics. We inherit body frames and other related body functions from our parents. However, the most outstanding result in raising our metabolism comes from exercise and building our muscle mass while reducing body fat. Adding more muscle to the body causes us to burn more calories, which helps elevate our metabolic rate.


Our metabolic functions also depend on how well we have taken care of our nutritional needs. The process of burning calories and creating energy is a delicate one that we must carefully attend to because if we don’t, it can become imbalanced.

Through careful analysis and detention of each person’s unique needs, we could bring about a more natural balance of the metabolic burn versus the calorie intake to a level where optimal health and weight control are in equilibrium.

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Feeling the need to be in control – PART 2-HOW TO GIVE UP Control.

 

Feeling the need to be in control – PART 2

HOW TO GIVE UP Control 

In Part One, I shared how you know how badly they need control to impact our lives. So, it should be no surprise that there is much to gain from giving it up. Giving up the need for control is often referred to as surrendering. But, unless you are a person of faith- the idea of surrendering is an enigma to us. 

One example of that is Michael Singer’s book “The Surrender Experiment. Singer describes how his life improved when he stopped trying to control everything. Here are some of the benefits of giving up the need to feel control over everything.

Increased Peace and Relaxation

utilizing the practice of surrender results in increased peace and relaxation. Trying to control everything causes stress and anxiety, as peace and relaxation are opposites, so enrol in my Mindfulness for beginners’ course, which will help you step by step through surrendering your stress and worry. This practise will help you let go of the claws of control in your life- making you a happier person.

The Beauty of Letting Go.

When you let go, you’ll be in a better place to handle whatever comes your way. People who have given up control and surrendered when taken by surprise.

Control is about attachment. By having less attachment, you can go with the flow. This means that however life plays out, you’ll be okay, rather than hinging your perception of OK-ness on specific results that may be beyond your control.

Free to Love

Since trying to control everything makes you more critical of yourself and other people, giving up control enables you to connect with others on deeper levels. You aren’t tying your love and acceptance for yourself and others to specific outcomes. Link you vid here

By simply letting people be how they are and allowing yourself to not be attached to how you want every situation to turn out, you can love more freely. This applies both to loving others and yourself. Link you tube video here

How to Let Go Of Control

Suppose you’ve decided you’d rather be at peace and well connected to others than stressed and critical. In that case, you’re probably interested in learning about how exactly you can go about giving up the need for control. The below tips will help you get started on this relaxing path, but there are many other ways you can accomplish it, too.

Anything you can do that helps you feel better with not being in control is brilliant. It can be large or small, practised often or only in moments of need. I encourage you to try one of the following to guide you on this new journey.

Accept What You Can and Can’t Control.

There’s no way to give up control until you know where in life it’s needed. Take stock of what you have happening. Carefully think through the areas of life that are in your control and those that aren’t.

Once you’ve recognised each category, you’ll be in a better position to make the right moves. This includes disconnecting yourself from the results and treating others differently when they don’t behave as you want.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about being present. Being in the moment and appreciating everything good as it happens can help you accomplish the feeling of surrender. It enables you to regulate your emotions, which is especially helpful if you struggle with feeling the need for control. It also reduces stress, which increases the need for control. Check out my Mindfulness Course to help you to let go – here. 

Journal

Writing down your feelings can be a significant relief for your stress levels.  

When you journal, you may be able to think through things deeper than if you just think about them. For people who feel the need to be in control, journaling can help you work through potential outcomes and give you an outlet for those feelings without enabling them to amplify and grow.

Get Support From Loved Ones

Lastly, if it’s at all possible, don’t go through this process alone! You may at least have one loved one who also tries to control everything about life. You can reach out to them and let them know you’re on a mission to surrender and give up control. Ask them to join you, then meet or talk with them regularly about how the process is going.

If someone in your life already has given up control and experienced the peace that comes with it, lean on them for support. 

Finally, research online and in books for tips, share your experience (start a YouTube channel or blog) and learn from what they’ve accomplished.

The need for control is natural, but it can also make your life miserable and difficult. 

I hope these tips put you on your way to a happier life -let me know!

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FIXING the need to be in control PART 1

Feeling the need to be in control is a natural human emotion. We all inherently need control over our lives, and we feel safe when we know what is going on.

However, it’s essential to realize that we can never control absolutely everything in our life. Trying to do so will lead to many negative emotions. When things don’t go exactly the way we want them to go, we try to force them, leaving us with a sense of helplessness.

There are many ways to increase your happiness in life, but one of the most simple and tangible ones is letting go of control. So why should we do that, and how do we even begin?

The Need to Control

 The desire to be able to control our surroundings and circumstances is ingrained into our consciousness. The more we know about our world, the safer we feel. On the other hand, the less we know, the more scared we feel. The need to control is directly rooted in fear—the fear and uncertainty of what might happen outside our control.

Forcing Control Ruins Your Life.

It may be natural to want to control everything, but that doesn’t make it healthy. There are many ways to control everything that could backfire in the long run. Let’s take a look at some.

Increased Stress And Anxiety.

People who try to control everything may experience more stress and anxiety than those who don’t. The simple act of feeling out of control when it feels necessary to have it can make a person’s blood pressure rise.

It is more devastating when things don’t go according to plan for people who feel the need to control than for those who feel less need to be in control.

Less Happiness

Feeling the need to be in control and not having it can make us feel dissatisfied. Feeling a need to control is not a pleasant feeling. People for whom control is a priority are quite unhappy compared to others who can let go.

More Criticism

Because there is no way to control everything in life, caring too much about how things outside your control can lead to increased criticism about everything that happens. When you can’t control the outcomes, you want to become upset, putting happiness out of reach.

The problem is that being more critical can make us more neurotic, creating an eternal downward cycle in which we become progressively unhappier with our lives. Criticism of others can also be damaging for people who deal with depression and anxiety, leading them to criticize themselves and deepening the sense of helplessness.

Look out for part 2 in this series where I will share HOW TO GIVE UP Control.

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What Constitutes a Mental Health Problem?

There are many ways to categorize what is a mental health problem. In addition, there are many variables, including cultural and social factors.

While psychiatrists and psychologists have most often used biological and psychological approaches, approaches by other helping professionals need to be recognized and may prove valuable.

By observing and listening to the patient or client with an open mind, we can better understand and treat mental health issues.

Professionals agree that the definition of a mental health problem can be highly subjective. It largely depends upon their beliefs and environment. For instance, schizophrenia was revered because of religious fantasies. People thought they had a connection with the divine, and epilepsy was thought to be evidence of the presence of a demon. 

Because of evitable cultural shifts, we also need to understand that the ideas around mental health change. Therefore, we need to be more open and diversify the different approaches to classifying mental health and rely more on nonmedical personnel for their unique point of view.

RESEARCH WEAKNESSES

Contemporary research focuses on European culture or history to exclude a more comprehensive view of the world. In mental health research, the European culture is pre-eminent than minority populations, which has led to an unbalanced view of mental health. Therefore, health professionals need to cater to the individual, and failure to do so may lead to missed opportunities.

An important thing for the public to understand is that mental health is still highly stigmatized. Despite more media coverage since the onset of the pandemic, we are still facing an uphill battle. 

Human beings are constantly interacting with the environment—adjusting to whatever needs they believe are expected of them while still remaining authentic to themselves. Unfortunately, the pressures upon us lead to us losing self-identity. As a result, life satisfaction may dwindle as mental health distress increases. We cannot consider the individual patient without considering all of that which is in one’s experience.

We must be aware that what works for one may not work for another, even when we cannot fully resolve a problem. However, as long as the patient is willing to make an effort to their recovery – even if the problem may be something outside of one’s control—we can teach the tools to help improve their life’s enjoyment or at least help to ease the pain, making life liveable.

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Self-Sabotage -2 Tips for Recovery

Self-Sabotage is when a person is fearful of commitment. They have experienced something that has created a sense of loss, abandonment, or not being unable emotionally invest. 

When someone is afraid of a commitment of any kind, they feel that they will be hurt somehow. To protect themselves that sabotage the relationship or the situation to make it end, or they may prematurely end the relationship even if it is going well.  

One of the signs to show that you self-sabotage is that you struggle to make and keep plans. Someone with only one foot in the door probably won’t make plans too far into the future.

Your Emotions Cause Extreme Discomfort

Life can be more complicated than we think. It’s fine to feel uncomfortable at times and we need to see any red flags. However, experiencing discomfort to avoid commitment or emotional conversations or not displaying your own emotion can signify commitment issues. 

If you suspect you might have a fear of commitment, ask yourself if any of the following apply: 

  • You’re happy with the relationship but still spend a lot of time questioning it.
  • You struggle to think about the future of the relationship.
  • You’re hesitant to make plans.
  • Talking about progressing the relationship makes you feel uneasy. 
  • You struggle to be vulnerable even if your partner is trying to engage emotionally.
  • Your partner feels uneasy and often asks you where you’re happy in the relationship and what you want because you send out mixed signals. 
  • You don’t feel emotionally engaged or connected with anyone. 

If you are fearful of commitment, you may experience fear, worry, and stress. You also may feel upset with yourself for being unable to progress in the relationship. In this circumstance, guilt is expected because you can see that you are hurting another person. 

2 Tips for Recovery 

1. To stop self-sabotage, you must recognize the patterns that created this behaviour in the first place and why it happened. The ‘why’ will be different for everybody. Maybe you have not recovered from past hurt or are worried about repeating a toxic relationship. Exploring the ‘why’ is not always easy to explore the benefits of speaking with a therapist

2. Another way to help work through a fear of commitment is to talk about it openly with your partner. First, help them understand your thoughts and feelings. Then, find a way to work together to create mutual support that can help you manage the thoughts and feelings around your fear. 

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She Studies the BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK, and is a life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

 Paula Rose Parish is a Pastor, Author, and founder, of Hope. Faith. Love, and Your Wellness Matters. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years, Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counsellor, and coach and taught at a Christian university. In addition, she has led workshops and retreats and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality. 

Author of over 200 articles and two published books, Paula Rose, continues to write on the wellness of mind, body, and spirit. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren and lives in South Wales, UK.

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Your Personal Development: Adults can Act Out and What to do about it.

In my last blog article, I introduced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, so have a little look at that if you missed it. This article will look at CBT a little bit deeper to enhance your own life and help you reach your goals. 

 No longer are you out of control of your thinking, feelings, and behaviours; by very much in control and somehow turn a difficult situation into something of a positive advantage. CBT is a beautiful method that, with patience, gives you the tools to develop a focused approach and aims to help you move from defined emotional and behavioural problems towards your goals and how you would like to feel and behave. CBT does not allow us to blame other people for our behaviours but shifts the responsibility to ourselves. No longer do we have pity parties and blame the first personal circumstances that come into our heads, but we take responsibility and make the changes in our lives progressively, deliberately, with intention.

The Power of Meanings.

CBT helps you focus on the meanings you attach to your emotional responses to an event. It helps you to the road of self-discovery and helps you to realise the negative and realistic attachments that you may create. 

Sometimes you’re thinking processes may lead you to attach extreme meanings to events leaving you feeling highly disturbed, causing you to react in a way that you may regret. So CBT helps you identify your thoughts, beliefs, and meanings activated when your feelings are disturbed. CBT, therefore, helps you with the self-control of mind and body and emotions. Suppose you assign less extreme, more helpful, and more accurate meanings to adverse events. In that case, you are more likely to experience a less extreme, less disturbing emotional, behavioural response it puts you in the driving seat of your life. You become the captain of your ship and not tossed about like a windswept vessel on the high seas.

 Acting Out as an Adult.

The Millers’ Medical dictionary acting out interpretation of acting out does not only pertain to children.

‘Action Out is the habitual expression of unconscious feelings through nonverbal behaviour to avoid the direct experiencing them; reacting to present situations as if they were the childhood situation that gave rise to the feelings and fantasies, as the acting out of a transference. Often applied imprecisely to any disapproved impulsive behaviour.’

As adults, we’ve learned restraint from physically demonstrating our emotions. Still, when we are pushed and feel threatened, we raise our voices and play the blame game. Especially when it’s someone we’re intimately connected to and emotionally dependant on, we can regress into our reactive child self quite unconsciously, which means we sulk, withdraw, or rush to defend ourselves. 

We become defensive, and when we feel denied or accused, we’re likely to block off our darkest fears, insecurities, and self-doubts by turning them back on our adversary. 

When we’re distraught and let our emotions get the better of us, we haven’t evolved much beyond childhood. We are driven to vengeance, feeling a deep need to hurt the other back. The problem is that our emotional distress derives from such feelings as being disregarded, devalued, distrusted, guilty, rejected, or unloved. When a person acts out, they cannot perceive the consequences of their acting out behaviours; our pained reactions prompt us to respond to the one who hurt us in ways likely only to harm the relationship further. However, it gives the person a renewed sense of power over the other. Instead of our reactions producing our desired outcome, they become counter-productive.

CBT is the Solution.

I have outlined the problem briefly – so what’s to be done? 

Genuine warmth, sensitivity and caring from others can be a tremendous power that heals and calm us. But what about treating yourself with those powers? By learning CBT, you will have the tools to treat yourself with the love and respect that you deserve. It is worth looking into, and if you missed my last blog on Personal development using CBT, it might give you an insight into a positive way forward- you will find it HERE.

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Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK.

BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK and a life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

 Paula Rose Parish is a Pastor, Author, and founder, of Hope. Faith. Love. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years, Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counsellor, and coach and taught at a Christian university. In addition, she has led workshops and retreats and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality. 

Author of over 200 articles and two published books, Paula Rose, continues to write on the wellness of mind, body and spirit. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren and lives in South Wales, UK.

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Personal Development and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: Be in the driving seat of your life

In my previous blog article- HERE– I introduced the subject of neurolinguistic programming. In this article, we’re going to look at it a little bit deeper to understand how it works with cognitive behavioural therapy. Now I am not saying that you need to go to a therapist, but in fact, if you learn to apply the principles of NLP and CBT you will enhance your own life in absolutely amazing ways without a therapist.

Defining Cognitive Behavioural Therapy


CBT is denoted as a mental process like thinking. The word cognitive refers to everything that goes into your mind consciously or unconsciously. For example, your dreams, memories images and thoughts and intentions are a cognitive process.

The word ‘behaviour’ refers to everything you do, including what you say and what you do. I have a Master’s degree in counselling and I studied CBT at length and found it not only useful for my clients but to enhance my personal life as well. CBT is a tried and tested philosophical method developed through numerous scientific studies over the past 30 years in particular.

Cognitive behavioural therapy teaches and encourages you to treat your thoughts as theories and hunches about reality, that must be tested rather than accepted immediately as facts. This gives you huge control over your thoughts and when you have control over your thoughts you have control over your behaviours.

CBT recognises that people hold values and beliefs about themselves the world and other people, so one of the main aims is to help people to develop flexible non-extreme help self-help beliefs about themselves and adapt them to pursue their goals.

Consciously and unconsciously you are influenced by what is going on around you and your environment, and this affects you either negatively or positively.

Behaviours

CBT recognises that you can change your reactions to your environment by adjusting the way you feel think and act. CBT believes that you are in the driving seat of your life,
and not the circumstances or the environment that invades it. Through CBT you can change unhealthy ways of thinking and behaving even if you can’t change your environment.


Changing the way you think and feel can happen by modifying the way you behave. Without CBT people held the belief that you cannot help the way you behave because of your thinking and feelings. CBT turns this on its head by advocating that if you change the way you behave, patterns are created in your brain enabling you to better control your thinking and feelings. I think of it like this, it’s like ‘fake it until you make it’. Behave in such a way that depicts the results that you desire, then your feelings and thus thinking will be able to be aligned with your desires.

For example, if you have a problem with worry, then instead of pacing the floor, sitting on the couch and consuming a whole lot of junk food or shouting and screaming because of the deep worry you’re feeling. You can change those behaviours, so, instead of pacing up and down, actually engage in an activity that calms you and generates peace of mind. Instead of reaching for that tub of ice cream and stretching out on that comfortable couch for the afternoon, engage in activities that are purposeful, useful and enjoyable to you. Instead of shouting and screaming and biting someone’s head off because of the deep worry you feel, change your tone lower your voice and put a smile on your face and address everyone with kindness and respect. So therefore if you adopt this model, your behaviours will change. You will begin to feel calmer and more peaceful, and because you feel calmer, you will experience peaceful thoughts and be more clear-minded.

You Are in Control of You

CBT gives you the tools to develop a focused approach and aims to help you move from defined emotional and behavioural problems towards your goals and how you would like to feel and behave. CBT does not allow us to blame other people for our behaviours but shifts the responsibility to ourselves. No longer do we have pity parties and blame the first person that comes alone or the circumstances, but we take responsibility and make the changes in our lives progressively, deliberately, with intention.

So no longer are we out of control, but very much in control and able to turn a difficult situation into something that is of positive advantage.

In my next blog article, I will be sharing a little bit more about self-development and cognitive behavioural therapy giving you a more purposeful, meaningful, and happy life.

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10 Tips for achieving Personal Development- for a fulfilled life.

All human beings are born with the same basic neurology. Your ability to do anything in life whether swimming the length of Paul, cooking a meal, or reading a book, depends on how you control your nervous system. Nuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is devoted to learning how to think more effectively and communicate more effectively with yourself and others.

The term ‘Nuro’ refers to our neurological system based on the idea that the experiences with the world through your sensors and how you translate sensory information into sort processes whether conscious or unconscious. These processes activate the neurological system which affects physiology, emotions, and behavior.

The word linguistic refers to the way human beings use language so they may make sense of the world, capture and conceptualize experience, and communicate that experience to others. In NLP, linguistics is the study of how the words you speak influence your everyday experiences.

The word ‘programming’, draws heavily from learning theory and addresses how you code or mentally represent experience. Your personal programming consists of your internal processes and strategies (thinking patterns). Your thinking patterns help you to use your brain to make decisions, solve problems, learn, evaluate, and get results.

So understanding what NLP becomes a useful tool for us in our personal development journey. There are many advantages to neurolinguistic programming but the main one is that NLP, shows people how to recode their experience and organize their internal programming so they can get the outcomes they want.

Do you think that you will use NLP to be useful to your personal development? Let me Know!

More about an NLP


NLP can be described in many ways. For convenience, I’ll just point out a few of them here.
😀Arts and science communication
😀what makes people tick
😀the key to learning
😀the way to get results in an area is of life
😀influencing others with values and integrity
😀the secret of successful people
😀a manual for your brain
😀away to create your future
😀helps people make sense of the reality
😀the toolkit for personal and organizational change.

There are four main points to say about NLP. By practicing in LP you gain rapport. Rapport helps you to build a relationship with others and indeed with yourself and it’s the most important gift that NLP gives most people who learn to develop it. Given the pace at which most of us live and work one big lesson in rapport is how you can say ‘no’ when you feel it is necessary to. Reporter helps you to decipher which requests for your time are necessary and yet use can still remain within a good friendship and colleague relationships.

NLP helps you to develop sensory awareness. This is important because with sensory awareness you will notice the differences in color, sounds, and smells in various locations and how it is affecting you and others around you. In this way, the world becomes a far richer place more enjoyable to live in. Sensory awareness can also be developed through mindfulness practices as you incorporate them into your everyday living.

NLP helps you with outcome thinking. Outcome thinking means that you reflect all think through a situation to find a solution, rather than being stuck in the problem. This approach helps you with all decision-making while you’re at work or in your personal life. It helps you with everyday choices that you make for yourself even simple ones like what show I have for dinner today?

Behavioural flexibility is an advantage that NLP gives you. Being flexible and embracing change is the key to developing your neuro sensors. Change is all about us every single day at every moment, so NLP will help us to embrace change and use it to our best advantage rather than resisting it and getting stuck.

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5 ways mindfulness will improve your  decision making 

Link to my video about decision making and full blog below

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I previously wrote an article about 8 tips for compassionate leadership and will link it for you HERE. https://wp.me/p9UfPQ-10o Mindfulness helps decision-making by putting into thought-forms descriptions of what is really going on effectively.

In this smart guide, I will take it a step further, addressing mindfulness and self-compassion – after all, how on earth can we as leaders are compassionate towards others if we are not firstly compassionate toward ourselves?

This article aims to strengthen your skills to boost your best possible decision-making abilities to enhance your business and your life. Mindfulness Awakens Compassion In the first instance, let’s look at mindfulness in the context of decision making. In concise terms, mindfulness has been defined as paying attention to purpose in the present moment. If you are paying attention, you will automatically become more compassionate to yourself and the people in your environment. Westernized mindfulness has yielded many positive findings, and practitioners, studies, and patients have been found to cope with pain, stress, emotional exhaustion, and other factors influencing stress and overall health as measured through various questionnaires and brain imaging scans. Further than having a broader awareness, mindful individuals are more creative and are more likely to find innovative solutions to complex problems. The studies have shown that mindfulness helps people handle multiple tasks more effectively, so we know that mindfulness is not just another new age scam but serious science! By being in a mindful state regarding decision-making, you can see the depth of the issues you face more clearly and shift your attention more quickly to what is most needed. The ability to shift your attention quickly and respond suitably is essential to good decision-making. 1.    It can be natural and automatic for us to pass judgment before we know the facts; however, this is not a process that leads to success. Mindfulness helps decision making by developing the ability to be non-judgmental of the inner experiences of oneself and others. Also, having the ability to disengage from initial thoughts and reactions allowing space and time for a a full appraisal of the facts and different perceptions before a decision is reached. 2.    A lot of us go about our daily business mind-less-ley. Mindfulness helps decision-making by developing observation by attending to sensations, thoughts, and feelings, creating an acute awareness of the self, and others. We become more keenly aware of the environment and the developing changes, which gives us the stimulus to make the right decisions. 3.    I am a procrastinator and have found that mindfulness helps decision-making by giving us how to spring into action with awareness. The awareness of the details of one’s actions is an excellent plus because you are not overtaken by distractions but can remain focused. 4.    Mindfulness helps decision making by putting into thought-forms descriptions of what is really going on effectively. When you are mindful, you become aware of your thought process better and, therefore, develop the ability to correctly ascertain and convey core and peripheral observations. 5.    Being highly sensitive, most of my life, I had gotten into trouble by reacting to a situation immediately, and usually, it was to my detriment and of others. However, I have found that mindfulness helps decision making by giving you the ability to perceive your inner emotions and others without having to react to them – Knee jerk reactions are gone forever (that’s the goal)!

I hope that these five reasons that mindfulness helps you to make good, solid decisions are a help to you. I am not implying that you will never make a wrong decision- of course, you will – you are only human after all! However, being mindful will significantly improve your chances of making stress-free choices that work to grow your business and your life!

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Be healthy using the Seven Dimensions of Wellbeing.

 Most of us want to be well and happy. Even less of us want to actually do something about it. This is because it takes a conservative effort each and every day to be and remain well. The Seven Dimensions of Wellbeing serves as a wonderful guide for us to follow to ensure optimal health.

I have gathered a lot of research on this as there are varying ideas as to what the dimensions or pillars should be. Here, I have outlined the most accepted model by academia.

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Physical Dimension

Physical wellness encompasses a variety of healthy behaviors, including adequate exercise, proper nutrition, and abstaining from harmful habits. 

It means learning about one’s holistic health and identifying any irregular symptoms. Physical wellness means getting regular medical checks and protecting yourself from injury and harm. 

Developing such healthy habits will add years to your life and enhance the enjoyment and quality of those years.

Some Ideas for your best physical wellness:

· Exercise daily

· Get adequate rest

· Use seat belts, helmets, and other protective equipment

· Learn to recognize early signs of illness

· Eat a variety of healthy foods

· eat to live- not live to eat

· Stop smoking and protect yourself against second-hand smoke

· Use alcohol in moderation, if at all.

Emotional Dimension

 Emotional wellness is normally defined as possessing the ability to feel and express balanced human emotions such as happiness, sadness, and anger. It means having the ability to feel empathy and compassion and offer sympathy.

Emotional wellness enables one to love and be loved while achieving a sense of satisfaction in life. Emotional wellness encompasses optimism, self-esteem, self-acceptance, and the ability to share feelings.

Some Ideas for emotional wellness:

· Understand your thoughts and feelings

· Cultivate an optimistic attitude

· Seek and provide support

· Learn time management skills

· Practice stress management techniques

· Accept and forgive yourself.

Intellectual Dimension

The intellectual pillar encourages creative, stimulating mental activities. Our minds need to be continually inspired and exercised just as our bodies do. People who possess a high level of intellectual wellness have an active mind and continue to learn well into old age. 

An intellectually healthy person uses the resources available to expand one’s knowledge and improve skills. Therefore, stimulating the mind through learning and participating in activities is essential.

Ideas for optimum intellectual wellness include

· Take a course or workshop

· Learn (or perfect) a foreign language

· Seek out people who challenge you intellectually

· Read

· Learn to appreciate art.

Social Dimension

Social wellness refers to our ability to interact and contribute successfully in the community.

This means learning good communication skills, developing intimacy with others, and creating a support network of friends and family members.

Social wellness includes showing respect for others and yourself. Contributing to your community and the world builds a sense of belonging.

Ideas for optimum social wellness include

· Cultivate healthy relationships

· Get involved

· Contribute to your community

· Share your talents and skills

· Communicate your thoughts, feelings, and ideas.

Spiritual Dimension

Spiritual wellness is recognizing that you are more than your body and mind. Spiritual wellness involves practicing guiding beliefs, principles, or values that help guide one’s life. It encompasses a high level of faith, hope, and love to your individual beliefs that provide a sense of meaning and purpose. 

It is a willingness to seek meaning and purpose in human existence, broaden one’s worldview, and appreciate the things that cannot be readily explained or understood.

A spiritually healthy person seeks peace, harmony, and oneness with themselves, others, and the world.

Ideas for optimum spiritual wellness

· Explore your spiritual core

· Spend time alone and meditate regularly

· Be fully present in everything you do

· Listen with your heart and live by your principles

· Allow yourself and those around you the freedom to be who they are

· See opportunities for growth in the challenges life brings you.

Environmental Dimension

Environmental wellness is an awareness of the unstable state of the earth and the effects of your daily habits on the physical environment. It consists of maintaining a way of life that maximizes harmony with the earth and minimizes environmental harm. It includes being involved in socially responsible activities to protect the environment.

A few Ideas for optimum environmental wellness:

· Stop your electronic and hard junk mail

· Conserve natural resources

· Minimise chemical use

· Reduce, Repurpose, Recycle

· Renew your relationship with the earth

Occupational-Finance Dimension

Occupational and Finance wellness involves preparing and using your gifts, skills, and talents to gain purpose, happiness, and enrichment in your life- even in retirement. 

The development of occupational satisfaction and wellness is related to your attitude about your work, paid or unpaid. 

Achieving optimal occupational wellness allows you to maintain a positive attitude and experience satisfaction/pleasure in all the work you pursue.

 Occupational wellness means successfully integrating a commitment to your occupation into a total lifestyle that is satisfying and rewarding.

Ideas for optimum occupational wellness include

· Explore a variety of career options

· Create a vision for your future

· Choose a career that suits your personality, interests, and talents

· Be open to change and learn new skills.

I hope this blog has inspired you to pursue your wellness- Be well!

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Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA

Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK.

BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK

A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

 Paula Rose Parish is an author, and the founder, of Hope. Faith. Love. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counselor, and coach and taught at Christian universities, led workshops and retreats, and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality. Author of over 100 articles and two books, Paula Rose continues to write on the spiritual life. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren, and lives in South Wales, UK.

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How Journalling, affects your health positively.

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Be Careful of Fizzy Drinks

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Studies reveal how your diet can have negative and long-lasting impacts on your health in new ways and sugar-sweetened soft drinks can cause digestive disease.

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How To know if you have Mental Health Problems; A Dummies Guide.

We as individuals are often encouraged to address mental health problems. However, it would help us if we knew what mental unhealthy- ness looked like to determine if we were mentally healthy accurately.

Keeping it Simple

In my research for this article, I found a new study published that provides a greater clarification of what constitutes a mental health problem. The new study published in the Journal of Mental Health was based on a review of over 100 publications that referred to “mental health” or “mental illness” and identified 34 different theoretical models to understand the nature of mental health challenges. The study points out that while understandings of mental health continue to evolve, it is imperative to include a variety of diverse perspectives to promote reasonable outcomes.

It can be overwhelming to understand all involved in such studies as a lay person. Furthermore, it is even harder to understand the outcomes and what they may mean to us. It is a minefield even for us professionals in the field.

The Results of the study by the Journal of Mental Health

The study ascertained no clear consensus on if mental health is considered a disease. Also, there was no precise data to determine if the participants thought about its cause or what constitutes a mental health problem.

Maybe people don’t think along those lines. Maybe folk subliminally understand mental health through their own traditional, family, religious belief, or memes and urban legends. 

  Researchers found that most people understood mental health more by how it manifested in a person in life rather than by relating to both biology and medicine.

Researchers realised they needed to learn from the people experiencing mental health issues. They needed to implement discussions that included perspectives from individuals with the lived experience of mental health challenges.

We All See Through Different Eyes 

Many cultural and social factors define mental health. In his work, Dr. Lagoy highlights,  that having a more diverse outlook and listening to other points of view can only make one more understanding and better at treating mental health problems. Furthermore, Dr. Lagoy explains, “What constitutes a mental health problem can be extremely subjective depending on the time and society in which one lives.” 

In other words, what may be a mental health issue to you, may not be the way I see it and vice versa. Further, what was seen as a mental health problem 20 years ago, might be diagnosed differently today. Finally, in different Eastern cultures, different behaviours are expectations from that in the West. Therefore culture needs to be considered when diagnosing. So, for example, you may think your cousin is just plain nuts, whereas he and his family may say that his behaviour is acceptable and expected.

As an example, he notes that in the middle ages, it was revered because people thought they had a connection with the divine. I am certainly not saying that all religious/spiritual experiences result from mental health issues. I have had a few such experiences and consider myself relatively sane! Years ago, I worked in a mental hospital as a chaplain, and most of the patients had some religious experience that convinced them of divine reality. Some were extreme indeed, like one guy believed he was God, another an angel – you get my drift!

So, what this study finally showed is that determining our mental health can be problematic because it is so subjective. However, if medical and psychiatry personnel took time to listen to people’s stories, it would help them diagnose a mental illness and how to treat it – this is where psychiatry and medicine should meet together. 

While understanding mental health change, Dr. Lagoy highlights, “The study touches upon how we need to be more open and diversify the different approaches of classifying mental health and rely more on nonmedical personnel for their unique point of view.”.

Hooray for this, I say!! Dr. Lagoy recommends that a list of known symptoms cannot always help the professional diagnose the person accurately. But instead, one must listen to lived experiences to understand the subjective experiences of mental health. I have a Master of Arts in Counselling, and it amazed me what I was taught relied heavily upon research done over 100 years ago. Learning from past wisdom is good; however, many changes have occurred. Culture has changed, people have changed, our cultural expectations have changed, and understanding of mental health needs to change.

Back to the Start

From the Journal of Mental Health research, we understand how to know if you have mental health problems is that you can’t accurately diagnose yourself by a tick box list.

Your mental unhealthiness can’t be understood by a set of symptoms that you may find on the internet.

Our mental health needs and manifestations are specific and different from others.

Therefore, a diagnosis needs to be made after trained medical professionals have heard your story. Determining what mental unhealthy- ness looked like with you, the research shows the importance of psychological and medical understanding of what you are going through and your point of view. However, you can take responsibility for your health and determine if something is not quite right with you, and that’s where you need to seek some professional help.

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How to Start each day with deep Breathing exercises for your well-being.

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3 Tips on How to Start Your Day Happy and stay super positive!

  1. Wake Up Early in the Morning.

If you wake up early, you will tend to eat breakfast because you have the time. However, when you get up late, you are rushing out the door, which forces you to grab something convenient or skip eating altogether. Skipping breakfast often creates more lousy eating habits later in the day. If you’re hungry because you missed a meal, you’ll be likely to reach for something sugary to keep you going. After a night of restful quality sleep, your skin will glow! If you’re a mature woman like me, when I first wake up, my face is puffy, so I splash cold water and do a quick face massage to distribute the fluid in my face. I also have a sinus problem that can make my face puffier in the morning. Splash cold water on your face reduces puffiness almost in an instant, and certainly wakes you up!

And if you’re an early riser, you’ll have time to adopt a skincare routine. So take advantage of the morning hours to give your skin some extra TLC. Like the breakfast example above, people who get up later in the day tend to focus less on healthy morning habits like hydrating and exercise, which oxygenates your blood and promotes healthy skin. Early morning risers can also use the extra time to exfoliate, moisturize and cleanse. It makes you feel great as well, which does wonders for your mental health! Having a predictable sleep routine ensures that your skin and, indeed, your organs get the right amount of time to rejuvenate.

2. Stretch Your Body

Ever seen a cat or dog not stretch when they wake up? They all do. I have 2 small dogs, and they really put time into a good stretch. This is because they wake up their bones, muscles, and joints before taking even one step. Stretching allows the blood to flow more freely around the body, making you feel fantastic! A word of warning- be careful not to overstretch as you can get a cramp or pull a muscle! Remember, everything is in moderation.

3. Make Your Bed.

When you rise early, you have the time to make your bed. I love a tidy bedroom and if the bed is not made it makes the whole room look untidy. I have a water bed, so it’s just a matter of straightening out my bottom sheet, fluffing and stacking up the pillows, then throwing over the duvet. This gives me a lift because now I have a tidy bed to sit down in and get dressed and ready for the day.

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Why you should do Crafts to Boost your Mental health – and grow your brain! 

According to the crafts council UK…’ Research published by University College London’s MARCH mental health network – formed in 2018, with members including the Crafts Council and the Museums Association – shows that engaging with the visual arts can reduce reported anxiety and that visiting museums can protect against dementia development. ‘Cultural activities encourage gentle movement, reduce social isolation, and lower inflammation and stress hormones such as cortisol,’ said the report’s author, Dr. Daisy Fancourt. ‘The arts are linked with dopamine release, which encourages cognitive flexibility, and they reduce our risk of dementia.’  This is not a speculation but there are many other studies back up these findings.

In practical terms, I have found the above to be true, for example, I enjoy decorative planning, greeting card making, coloring, and other creative activities. When doing some crafts activity daily, I have more positive psychological functioning. I also experience increased engagement- mindful awareness of whatever is going on in my day – Happy Days!😎

BE KIND TO YOUR MIND

Many years ago, when I was in the nursing profession, we helped patients’ recovery by engaging them in art-based activities which enhanced their total well-being.  

Unlocking the creative mind enables us to become more open to the possibility of new possibilities and develop a positive outlook. In addition, the enjoyment of doing crafts contributes to psychological well-being through increasing pride and happiness, self-awareness, and a sense of achievement.  

Craft practices, such as coloring books for grown-ups (which I love doing) and the upsurge of interest in cooking from complete scratch and productive home gardens, are being looked to as something of a simple remedy to the stresses and pressures of modern living. These activities are called mindful activities. Mindfulness is where you focus is on your body, mind, and emotions engaged in your task. Some people also engage spiritually with their tasks. This mind, body, and spirit connection brings holistic strengthening and healing. 

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CRAFTING GROWS YOUR BRAIN  

Repetitive actions are suitable for your brain. Repetition helps to strengthen the brain’s neural processors for learning and teaches you to practice, master, and retain knowledge.  

Repetition is so important because it allows practice and reinforcement while being needed for skill mastery and success. We all learn through repetition and memorization, which helps to strengthen the brain’s neuron processors for learning; this is where crafting comes in. Crafts, by and large, are repetitious, particularly things like knitting. Even for a short while daily, engaging in crafting will help grow the brain’s neuron processors – Happy Days!😁

 

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How to Stop Worrying and Find Peace of Mind.

THE DEFINITION OF WORRY

If you have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, you probably know what it is like to live with constant worry. Worry is that feeling of unease that occurs when your thoughts are focused on current difficulties or potential problems that have not yet happened. For example, these feelings can range from worrying about what your children are doing and if they are OK, or what have for dinner tonight, or about a life-changing decision you need to make.

Many people who struggle with anxiety-related conditions are negatively affected by their worrisome thoughts. Frequent worrying can be exhausting and puts you on a treadmill of negative feelings of fear and anxiety. Worry steals your life- it makes you focus on the negative things, instead of moving you forward into a bright future. Worry can make it difficult to relax and rest, even contributing to many physical ailments.

Worry is common among those diagnosed with panic disorder. There are certain worries that are frequently experienced by those with this condition. For example, the health organization, VeryWell Mind states that people with panic disorder often worry about when they will experience their next panic attack. Those who worry so much about their physical symptoms are often prone to engaging in avoidance behaviors, finding it difficult to engage in their regular activities or socialise.

If you find yourself becoming a victim of your worries, all is not lost. Make up your mind that you will not get stuck on the worry treadmill, but rather learn some new coping skills to bring peace, calm, and happiness.

As a Psychotherapist, I have been trained in a few interventions, one of them being Cognitive Behavioural Therapist on a Master of Arts level. One thing is for sure,  you will have to put some effort in to overcome worry. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) combines scientific, philosophical, and behavioral aspects to its approach. In overcoming worry, you need to understand how all these aspects work with you for you to be able to control them to achieve the outcomes you desire. You may want to spend a few minutes sharing your worries with someone, but it is best to not let that be the only subject that you talk about.  This is where a good therapist can guide and help you. Please contact me if you would like me you help you to overcome worry.

Things you can Do Right Now

Create the discipline to get your mind off your worries. For example, try to get busy walking, doing a hobby, watching television, or reading a good book.

To prepare yourself for future worrying, try to come up with a make a list of activities that you can do. The Very Well Mind organization suggests labeling the list “What I can do instead of worrying” and then underneath write down activities that will put your mind elsewhere. Consider what activities you can do when in different situations, such as when you are at home, traveling, or at work. Having many options listed will increase the chance of you using them when you need them the most.

A few possibilities to add to your list include:

  • Do some chores inside or around the house, such as laundry or gardening
  • Exercise or engage in a physical activity
  • Read a book, magazine, or newspaper
  • Organize your home or office
  • Watch a funny movie
  • Visit family or friends
  • See a movie
  • Engage in a creative activity, such as drawing or writing
  • Build a support network.

Coping with Panic Disorder

Many people with panic disorder feel isolated and often find it difficult to reach out to others. If you are feeling lonely or are uncomfortable talking to others, try exploring your problem on your own through writing.

Find a journal you enjoy looking at or simply a pen and some paper and write out your worries.

When you have it all written down, you may be able to better see the problem clearly. Try to think through some potential solutions to your problems. Also, try to balance out your worries by writing down what you are grateful for. Sometimes when we are worried, we overlook the more positive aspects of our lives.

Practice Relaxation and Self-Care Techniques.

Learning to relax is a proactive way to work towards overcoming your worries. People with panic disorder tend to have an overactive flight-or-fight response. My book Nothing Good about Grief deals with his at length.

meaning that they often approach life with a lot of fear and anxiety. My Book Nothing Good about grief features Relaxation techniques that serve the purpose of improving one’s relaxation response and minimizing anxious thoughts in the second half of the book.

There are many ways to elicit the relaxation response, including progressive muscle relaxation, mindfulness, and meditation. These techniques can be easily learned producing a calmer you. Try a few out and decide which approaches work best for you. When you decide, it’s important to make a careful effort to practice your relaxation techniques for at least 10 to 20 minutes per day.

Other self-care practices include physical fitness and nutrition, expressing our creativity, tending to our spiritual needs, and developing healthy relationships. Determine which activities you need to practice more in your life. Practicing self-care for panic disorder can help you live and feel healthier, which may help defeat some of your worries.

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Is Your Health, Wellbeing, and Quality of Life Worth the Effort?

  There are many answers to this because you know the saying how long is a piece of string. The same can be said when we try to define health. So, for clarity, I will just lay it out in bullet points to give you an overall idea of what health actually means and how it affects our quality of life.

Health can be Defined As

  • mental
  • emotional
  • social
  • physical
  • spiritual
  • environmental
  • intellectual
  • financial

These points are the main ones, and I’m sure you will probably come up with a few more relevant to you. In another post, we will unpack these individually. Just today, we are just looking overall at the definition of health.

                  So, we see in the bullet points that health encompasses more than just physical, which shows that health encompasses every aspect of our life. However, there is a problem. The problem is that one area of health influences another because they directly impact one another, whether detrimentally or positively. This is why I am passionate about holistic health, which defines health inclusively, as you see above. But, of course, all of these points and the others you come up with should be equal and balanced to achieve well-being. 

Remember, All elements must be observed because they affect one another in the short and long term.

The Reason You Should Journal Your Wellness.

Wellness is on a continuum from optimal to extremely poor. Wellness can be scaled and changed throughout the day. This is why it is important to journal your wellness of all the aspects mentioned above, and that health will point. Because then you can see the changes from morning to afternoon, for example, or if you journal once a day from day today. The benefit of this is to ascertain what triggers these reactions/results. And then you can either avoid them if there are adverse reactions or do more of them if they are positive and strengthens your health and well-being.

The Importance of Awareness

It’s all about being aware of you, your health your well-being in all those aspects mentioned above, and doing something about them to maintain them will give you the life you desire.

How many times have you heard someone mention, or you may have said it yourself- if only I was well enough, I would do XY or Z. If only I were more mobile, physically stronger, or fitter, I would do XY or Z.

Life is too short to let it pass by and live in regret. So, get cracking and plan for your health and well-being. What set goals can you achieve to work towards your health and well-being?

If you diligently do this, you may be able to achieve those things that you desire and dream of. Your dreams can literally come true, but the trick is to know your body and how it reacts.  

What does it take for you to experience holistic health and maintain wellness?

 So, this takes a bit of effort on your part. So, reading blogs like this and reading books about the subject will be really helpful to you. Then, head over to my YouTube channel here. I have heaps of short videos posted on wellness Wednesday for those interested in mind and body wellness. And also, vids posted on Faith Friday for those interested in spiritual wellness.

Where The Rubber Hits the Road

The bottom line is to be well; one needs to look after one’s health. Seriously, there’s no other way around it. You can’t abuse your body, mind, spirit, environment, and other aspects and expect to be healthy and well. You need to make up your mind that you are important enough to make an effort to set goals, then create habits for your health and wellness. Guess what? You will be able to enjoy each and every day to the full.

Quality of life, is Health Important?

As a matter of course, responsible persons should take the time to educate themselves and their children about the benefits of healthy eating, exercise, and all those other things that pertain to health and wellness.

                 Remember, eat to live, do not live to eat. 

This may mean actually changing your habits by learning new things and new ways of cooking and eating. This has been a life task for me throughout my life. I have learned many ways of eating differently and cooking as my body is getting older and my needs are changing, so I need to adjust my diet, exercise, lifestyle, etc., to meet those needs.

If you have a family, I believe that we have a responsibility towards them to ensure their health and well-being, so doing the study and research on all these aspects of health and well-being is certainly never a waste of time. On the contrary, it is an investment towards the quality of their lives.

Let’s Get Real

 It’s important to understand that your field of interest, level of education, income level, has no bearing on how you can be well and healthy. All you need to do is get honest with yourself, stop making excuses, and get right into being healthy and well.  

               Remember, your life tremendously affects your health; your health tremulously affects your life. Therefore, maintaining your health is one of the most essential things to enjoy. 

Find a Reason to be Healthy and Well

Finding a good reason is vital to keep you motivated. For example, have your children or grandchildren looking after you? If so, you need to keep well to continue with that responsibility.

Do you want to be well enough to enjoy your retirement? What other reasons can you think of to keep well and healthy? 

When I was younger with young children, my main goal to be healthy and well was that when my children grew to be adults, I would be able to continue playing sports with them, go walking, keep up with them, and enjoy their company. 

                Remember, maintaining your health is one of the most important things daily.

Quality of life is essential, so I encourage you today, through this blog article, to get educated to make the right choices and live a rich and whole life.

Thank you for reading this article today is excellent for your visit here. If you feel that I can help you, please contact me regarding your holistic wellness of mind, body, and spirit.

There are many resources for you on this site, through YouTube, through the podcasts and the mindful course I offer, etc., on my other websites. So, I invite you to click the links and explore and use the resources you wish. If you use any quotes, please cite my name and where the article you got it – thank you.

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5 Reasons Why Mindfulness Helps You.

I previously wrote an article about 8 tips for compassionate leadership and will link it for you HERE. https://wp.me/p9UfPQ-10o This article aims to strengthen your skills to boost your best possible decision-making abilities to enhance your business and your life.

Mindfulness Awakens Compassion

In the first instance, let’s look at mindfulness in the context of decision making. In concise terms, mindfulness has been defined as paying attention to purpose in the present moment. If you are paying attention, you will automatically become more compassionate to yourself and the people in your environment. Westernized mindfulness has yielded many positive findings, and practitioners, studies, and patients have been found to cope with pain, stress, emotional exhaustion, and other factors influencing stress and overall health as measured through various questionnaires and brain imaging scans. Further then having a broader awareness, mindful individuals are more creative and are more likely to find innovative solutions to complex problems. The studies have shown that mindfulness helps people handle multiple tasks more effectively, so we know that mindfulness is not just another new age scam but serious science! By being in a mindful state regarding decision making, you can see the depth of the issues you face more clearly and shift your attention more quickly to what is most needed. The ability to shift your attention quickly and respond suitably is essential to good decision making. 1.    It can be natural and automatic for us to pass judgment before we know the facts; however, this is not a process that leads to success. Mindfulness helps decision making by developing the ability to be non-judgmental of the inner experiences of oneself and others. Also, having the ability to disengage from initial thoughts and reactions allowing space and time for a a full appraisal of the facts and different perceptions before a decision is reached. 2.    A lot of us go about our daily business mind-less-ley. Mindfulness helps decision making by developing observation by attending to sensations, thoughts, and feelings, creating an acute awareness of the self, and others. We become more keenly aware of the environment and the developing changes, which gives us the stimulus to make the right decisions. 3.    I am a procrastinator and have found that mindfulness helps decision making by giving us how to spring into action with awareness. The awareness of the details of one’s actions is an excellent plus because you are not overtaken by distractions but can remain focused. 4.    Mindfulness helps decision making by putting into thought-forms descriptions of what is really going on effectively. When you are mindful, you become aware of your thought process better and, therefore, develop the ability to correctly ascertain and convey core and peripheral observations. 5.    Being highly sensitive, most of my life, I had gotten into trouble by reacting to a situation immediately, and usually, it was to my detriment and of others. However, I have found that mindfulness helps decision making by giving you the ability to perceive your inner emotions and others without having to react to them – Knee jerk reactions are gone forever (that’s the goal)!

I hope that these five reasons that mindfulness helps you to make good, solid decisions are a help to you. I am not implying that you will never make a wrong decision- of course, you will – you are only human after all! However, being mindful will significantly improve your chances of making stress-free choices that work to grow your business and your life!

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Hope in Difficult Times- A new ebook coming out soon!

I published Psalm 23 Unwrapped last year in paperback. The paperback has been well received, and now I am very pleased to announce that the ebook will be out in the Spring!

Get your paperback copy here-

I am so excited about this as the book will be available to a wider range of people to help them in difficult times. Here is an excerpt of the book so you know what to expect.

Psalm 23 The Contemporary English Version Bible (2000). HarperCollins Publishers

1. You Lord, are my Shepherd I will never be in need

2. You let me rest in fields of green grass. You lead me to streams of peaceful water,

3. And you refresh my life.

4. As walk-through valleys that are as dark as they are, I won’t be afraid. You are with me, and your shepherds’ rod makes me feel safe.

5. You treat me to a feast, while my enemies watch. You honor me as your guest, and my cup overflows.

6. Your kindness and love will always be with me each day of my life, and I will live forever in your house, Lord. 

Traces of grief may always remain, It changed me.

                            The real victory is not in deleting the effects,

                                               but in the triumphing over them.     

Paula Rose-Parish

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Have you ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong? What about one of those weeks, where every day is one big blur, and nothing seems to work out? You may look back over the last 12 months and just see disaster after disaster happening and all is totally out of your control? I think most of us can relate to one or two of
these at least. How many people do you know who suffer from a restlessness that
makes them so disconnected that they fall into depression, or just give up on
life? Perhaps the death of a loved one has stripped the person of purpose and
meaning, the grief being so overwhelming that they feel that they will never
get over it? I know loads of people in this place, and I have helped them and
in fact, I’ve been there a few times myself – and I am sure you have too- not a
nice place to be! Or possibly you are unwell and facing your own impending
death, and you don’t know what to think or which way to turn.

 So, what can we do when things like this happen? How can we find joy
and a realistic coping strategy to get us through rather than allowing it to
defeat or destroy us? Contentment is a precious thing, but how can we find it
in our darkest valley? Lots of people ask these questions and spend a lot of
time and money looking for answers.

 If you have loved much you will grieve much. Grieving is not bad, but
for it to hang on for years is certainly not good either. As pointed out in my
book, Nothing Good about Grief, bereavement can leave us with the
feeling of utter emptiness. As human beings, we have a need to grieve
because it is healthy to do so. We must understand that there will be a silver
lining somewhere. Grief can be turned around self-discovery in the long run,
even when we can’t imagine it at first. But this only happens if we are willing
to learn, change, and learn the right attitude allowing bereavement to be
turned around for our benefit. However, it is also true that there is a
possibility that we can become trapped in our grief, not knowing how to let go
of it.

This is book is designed to help you find solutions to work through the
difficult times in your life. Psalm 23 Unwrapped shows God’s nature as Father
in the image of the Good Shepherd. In the same way, as a good Father does, the
Shepherd leads us, and provides, protects, and guides us. Whatever your circumstances,
this book offers ideas that will assist you to discover coping strategies while
maintaining equilibrium. If you rely on the right conditions to make you happy,
you will always be tossed about and will never experience inner calm and joy-
even in the face of death. Psalm 23 Unwrapped, can be used as an enhancement to
my book Nothing Good about Grief. The book you hold in your hands will
help you to let go of the pain of your problems, resentment, grief, and the
fear of death. Using Psalm 23 as a template – which is also known as the Psalm
of David – this book guides you in your journey through your troubled times, to
find meaning, purpose, and peace. 

The experience of loss, mainly if it is sudden, can bring about the reaction
of immense psychological shock. This traumatizes us psychologically. Some
people think the effects of grief are purely psychological things and have
nothing to do with our physicality. However, recent research shows that our
psychological health has a direct bearing on our physical health. This is why I
approach my work holistically. It is my aim to minister to the whole person,
body, mind, and soul. Our spiritual life cannot be separated from our everyday
existence and adjusting to a daily rhythm to fulfill your basic human needs is
the first step to getting a handle on the feeling of fear, panic, and
uncertainty. It is a step to curing the virus of anxiety and panic. It helps us
to see life, health, death, and spirituality differently, even amid your
difficulties. When we have re-connected to the sense of the present while
trusting in God, we will find peace – the peace we lost in all that stress – is
closer to us, deeper within us, than we had ever imagined.

Psalm 23 Unwrapped, offers strategies to cope with your journey through the
dark valley. I have chosen the study of Psalm 23 because it shows the Lord as
our Good Shepherd, our protector, our daily provider, our peace and rest, and
our guide through every circumstance in life or death. God’s faithfulness leads
us through dark valleys while watching over us with his rod and staff. All of
that is amazing enough to prompt us to praise him, but we may wonder what
happens after we pass through the valley? What does the Lord do then? How do
you maintain your joy and happiness?  

Studying God as Shepherd helps us with these and other questions. For
instance, Jehovah-Raah, which means The Lord, my
Shepherd.
 A shepherd is a role description, not a name of a person.
Jehovah is not a name either. Translated as The Existing One or Lord.
So again, it describes who God is. Also, it suggests becoming or
specifically becoming known. This implies that God always
discloses who he is. God reveals himself in the metaphor, or even in the image
of a shepherd. A shepherd is the one who feeds or leads his flock to pasture
(Ezekiel 34:11-15). An extended translation is a friend or companion.
This indicates the intimacy that God desires between himself and his people.

Untangling the nature of God reveals to us that God is our friend,
guide, companion, and the ever-existing One. The One who loves and cares for
his sheep. The Shepherd guides us on our journey. The loving One who just
doesn’t point us the way but walks with us through the darkness.

We can view our life’s experience as a spiritual journey beginning and
ending in mystery, full of inexplicable pain and joy, yet full of wonder. In
the end, it is faith, hope, and love that frees us from any kind of fear.
However, we are exposed to our real predicament: not having a spiritual path in
times like this. We may lack even a trace of meaning, not seeing the bright
spark of life hidden in the darkness of our anguish or in our demise. All these
are symptoms of another virus rampant in our materialism and delusion. I hope
that this book shows the way out of that delusion. Faith in Christ Jesus is
good news because it is the remedy that overcomes the hopelessness of grief and
the fear of death and dying, and what is beyond.

In this book, we Unwrap Psalm 23 verse by verse to guide us in this journey.
I invite you to travel with me – the adventure awaits……….

Paula Rose-Parish 

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Email: paularoseparish@gmail.com

 

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How to Delay Age-Related Mental Decline

Challenging your brain regularly can have incredible long-term effects. Here are why it’s important to keep your brain sharp: What are the ways to keep your mind sharp? Some of the ways I’m going to talk about are stuff that you already know, but you may want to hear it again. We all have to prepare for old age, especially if we have dementia and Alzheimer’s in our bloodlines. Check out what I have to say about keeping your brain in tip-top shape!

Increased Memory Capacity

When you keep your mind sharp by challenging it to learn new things, your brain works harder. As a result, your memory capacity increases.

A well-known and interesting study, that you can find on London taxi drivers and bus drivers: a structural MRI and neuropsychological analysis – PubMed (nih.gov) it was discovered that London taxi drivers had a larger hippocampus which is the area of the brain that forms and accesses memories than London bus drivers. This was because the taxi drivers had the daily challenge of finding and navigating numerous streets on demand, unlike bus drivers who follow a set route.

Increased Cognitive Capacity

By regularly challenging your brain, you’re improving and strengthening the connective tissue in your brain’s neurons which helps them perform better and quicker. One can challenge one’s brain in a variety of ways. For example

Go on! Learn a new language

Do Puzzles that challenge you

Learn Meditation because it gives you the ability to gain full control over your mind and how you react to the world.

There’s an abundance of evidence that shows how important exercise is not only for a healthy body, but a healthy mind also.

Reading is one of the best ways to increase your mental capacity. Because of my dyslexia, I had never read a full book until I was well into my 20s. I didn’t know I was dyslexic until I was In my late 40s, but the teachers told me I was just lazy- which I knew wasn’t true. I could have stayed in that mode, but I wasn’t happy that I wasn’t learning anything, and I wanted to be challenged. So, it was then that I decided to bite the bullet and learned to read properly.

People who read a lot of books are better at recalling information than non-readers. That’s why you should read more books and publications on a wide variety of subjects, and just challenge your brain! Rather than wasting hours vegging out in front of a TV, which was easy to do during the COVID pandemic- or social media-ing mindlessly on your phone, check out books to read at your public library or on-line

Spend time with people who are motivated, focused, and want to learn and grow the way you do https://naturalife.org/mind/motivational-inspirational-quotes. Challenge yourself that include other people. Trip the Light Fantastic! Dancing is a social interaction that helps in sharpening your brain while improving your coordination. I like board games but not much else. But you may be different. Research shows that When you participate in interactive, challenging games and activities with others you’re 65% to 75% more likely to remain sharp and prevent memory disorders from occurring, such as Alzheimer’s and other neurodegenerative diseases.

Adequate Sleep is so important for not only refreshing your memory but healing your brain also. The older I get the more I suffer from disturbed sleep. Even if you do everything possible to improve your cognitive abilities, your brain still won’t function as well as it should if you fail to get enough sleep. After trying it all and reading all the books, for me, I rise from bed at 5 am and get into bed by 9 pm and then read for an hour and find that this helps me to sleep all night. I feel so much better about it, getting quality sleep can help your brain recover after a frantic day. Try what works for you and don’t watch TV, or your electric devise after 9 pm, or you may be awake all night!

Stop cramming the information in your head! Instead, When you’re trying to recall something you’ve just read or heard, repeat the information out loud as well as write it down. This helps to imprint the new facts into your memory. This is one of the skills I learned as a dyslexic but for everyone, it’s a wonderful habit to develop to enhance your memory. However, don’t just repeat the information several times and then not review it later.

Instead, plan to go over it again shortly. Review the new information every few hours throughout the day, every day, until it becomes embedded in your mind and becomes a habit. When you space out periods of study, you’re helping to improve your memory.

Make Schedules.

I had to face it that If I don’t make a schedule- stuff just doesn’t get done. Today’s business world is exceptionally competitive and busy. That’s why making schedules and prioritizing should be a requirement for your personal development growth rather than an option. We all know that time flies by, so time management is of extreme importance if you want to advance in your personal and professional development.

The above tips will help you expand your brain function. This process, known as neuroplasticity, is how your brain expands its capacity. Put simply, neuroplasticity, which is also called “brain plasticity”, is your brain’s ability to go through physiological or structural changes.

Delay Natural Aging Mental Decline

Although the cognitive decline is usually inevitable with aging, it’s possible to delay the symptoms and beat the odds of developing dementia and other forms of memory loss.

But making the effort and just by doing some simple, well-constructed brain exercises, you can improve neuroplasticity. As a result, you stand a greater chance of overcoming the decline of mental functioning that naturally occurs with aging – and that GREAT NEWS!

👱‍♀️Thank you for visiting me here at Your Wellness Matters and being part of this community!

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WHAT IS WELLNESS?

Defining Wellness

To understand the significance of wellness, it’s important to understand how it’s linked to health. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), health is defined as.. being “a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”

The Global Wellness Institute defines wellness as the active pursuit of activities, choices, and lifestyles that lead to a state of holistic health.

 Wellness is an individual pursuit—we have self-responsibility for our own choices, behaviors, and lifestyles—but it is also significantly influenced by the physical, social, and cultural environments we live in.

Wellness is a series of positive daily choices you make to live your life to the fullest!  My mission is to support you to make the right daily choices for your wellness. I do this through coaching, counseling where needed, speaking publicly, and my writings.

Wellness is a modern word with ancient roots. The fundamental tenets of wellness as preventive and holistic can be traced back to ancient civilizations from India, China, Greece, and Rome. 

As conventional medicine developed, various intellectual, religious, and medical movements also appeared. However, with their focus on holistic and natural approaches, self-healing and preventive care, these movements have provided a firm foundation for wellness practices.

Wellness-focused and holistic interventions have gained more visibility in the last fifty years. Wellness is about healthy living, self-help, self-care, fitness, nutrition, diet and spiritual practices, environmental and social interaction that have evolved into a flourishing wellness movement today.

The idea of wellness is broadly defined, but there are several similar components to each definition.

Wellness is something that you desire and choose to pursue. It’s a choice you make in life that requires constant effort to achieve.

While associated with a healthy lifestyle, wellness goes beyond the confines of general health. It encompasses a positive outlook on your mind, body, and soul and is something we often have more control over than health.

Wellness has various dimensions and can be viewed as a quality, state, or process.

At face value, the idea of wellness may appear complex- but it need not be.

Citations

What is Wellness? | Pfizer

 <https://globalwellnessinstitute.org/what-is-wellness/>

Global Wellness Day – Global Wellness Day is an entirely not-for-profit day, a social project created by volunteers who are dedicated to living well.

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Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA

Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK.

BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK

A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

 Paula Rose Parish is an author, and the founder, of Hope. Faith. Love. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counsellor, coach and taught at Christian university, led workshops and retreats, and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality.

Author of over 100 articles and two books, Paula Rose continues to write on the spiritual life. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren, and lives in South Wales, UK.

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Understanding Health & Wellness

In this blog, we are briefly discussing what is it that makes us healthy, and defining what health actually is. In understanding what health is we can better equip ourselves to be healthy. Good health and wellbeing bring many benefits for all of us. Healthier people tend to be happier, tend to play an active role, and contribute to society and the economy through their families, local communities, and workplaces.

According to HM Gov Department of Health, there is a two-way relationship between wellbeing and health: health influences wellbeing, and wellbeing itself influences health

  • Health is one of the top things people say matters for wellbeing
  • Both physical and mental health influence wellbeing, however mental health and
    wellbeing are independent dimensions, mental health is not simply the opposite of
    mental illness.

What is health?

We use a broad definition of health that encompasses holistic health, as well as wellbeing. This means we are not only interested in whether or not people are ill or have a health condition, but also in how healthy and well they are.

According to HM Gov Department of Health, there is a two-way relationship between wellbeing and health: health influences wellbeing, and wellbeing itself influences health

  • Health is one of the top things people say matters for wellbeing
  • Both physical and mental health influence wellbeing, however mental health and
    wellbeing are independent dimensions, mental health is not simply the opposite of
    mental illness.

It’s important to understand the difference between wellness and health if we are to look after ourselves so we can be in optimal shape and enjoy life.

Definition of health

WELLNESS is a combination of  the 7 Pillars of health

All should be called to be healthy and balanced to achieve well-being or elements must be observed each element affects the other.

So to understand what health is, we need to be understanding what it is in relation to all aspects of the 7 Pillars.

You are a Holistic Being

So many of us just concentrate on our physical health and we ignore all the other elements. You can be physically healthy mentally and emotionally unwell. But the problem is that your mental state and emotional state will finally catch up with you and affect your physical health eventually. Then your social health will suffer which in turn will affect your mental and emotional health. Then all the pillars will be affected and that’s when life starts to suck!

So, we cannot separate any elements of our body but we must look at Health holistically – as a total whole.

The problem is that this takes a little bit of research to get our heads around. We do not automatically understand how to maintain the health of our bodies nor our minds or our emotions or even our social well-being, it is something that needs to be learned. This is why people who enjoy educating themselves are usually a lot fitter than those who don’t.

Science has learned how healthy your physical brain is that it actually affects your mental and emotional health. Both physical health and mental health can influence wellbeing

Learning to love learning is one of the key elements in your total health.

Ways to make physical health stronger

  • daily eating  nutritious meals and snacks
  • physical fitness activities that challenge your muscles
  • Regularly visiting Dr and dentist and other health providers for check-up’s
  • Avoid all harmful behaviours and habits

Ways to make Mental and emotional health Stronger

  • Improve your physical health 
  • Strengthen your Positive relationships
  • Ensure you have a positive and balanced self-concept and self-esteem 
  • Learn to  handle stress and challenges in daily living
  •  Deal with thoughts and feelings and the choices you make.

 In future blogs, I will be writing more about the 7 Pillars to help you gain and maintain holistic health.

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Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA

Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK.

BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK

A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

 Paula Rose Parish is and author, and the founder, of Hope. Faith. Love. She studied at the University of Derby and received a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development. Over the years Paula Rose has served as a pastor, chaplain, counsellor, coach and taught at Christian university, led workshops and retreats, and spoken worldwide on Christian spirituality. Author of over 100 articles and two books, Paula Rose continues to write on the spiritual life. Paula Rose is adding a string to her bow and is presently reading Health and Wellness. She has four grown children, five grandchildren, and lives in South Wales, UK.

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How to Stay Focused for your wellbeing

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Why self-love is so important for Wellbeing

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4 WAYS SELF-LOVE CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE – For good mental health

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Why you should have Self Love

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How to Beat the Tall Poppy Syndrome/ 5 tips.

I had made the biggest mistake in my life when I looked for love in all the wrong places. Unfortunately, for many of us, this often happens because we don’t love ourselves first, which results in a low opinion of ourselves.

Dear reader, ‘Love yourself first’ is a phrase that we’ve heard so many times – to the point where we develop a contorted view of it, therefore losing its meaning. I want you to be happy and find true love if that’s what you’re looking for. To do that, you must raise your opinion by learning to love yourself above anyone or anything else truly.

 Where I grew up, there was an expectation that if one was proud of one’s achievements and you shared your success with others, you were deemed as being they are ‘full of yourself’. Therefore, loving yourself was not praiseworthy but having a low opinion and not appreciating yourself self-kept the status quo of those around me, which is famously called the tall poppy syndrome.

The tall poppy syndrome is used to describe those who deliberately put down another for their success and achievements. Cutting down the tall poppy, is a cultural phenomenon which describes a draw towards mediocrity and conformity commonly known in Australia and New Zealand. The syndrome is about why people hold back, criticise, or sabotage those who have or are believed to have achieved notable success in one or more aspects of life, particularly intellectual or cultural wealth, so they cut down the tall poppy. 

5 TIPS TO WHY YOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELF

Fortunately, these five tips about loving yourself first show us the importance of giving ourselves the same type of love we search so hard to find.

1. Western culture places a lot of value on material things. But, as you learn to love yourself, you will conclude that you’re priceless. No material thing- Nothing is of equal value to YOU. So, this tip gives yourself the ‘why’ you should love yourself when you have your ‘why,’ it motivates forwarding to discover your authentic self and love you anyway.

2.   Awaiting or anticipating the approval of others will bring you down to an all-time low. This tip is to rid yourself of the opinion and judgments of others. You cannot control what others may or may not think of you, but you can control what you think of yourself!

Be set free from the idea that you ‘must’ have someone to love you to find worth. When you love yourself and find your worth in that, -you are free!

After you’ve learned to do that, you’ll find yourself feeling a whole lot happier, and then love and happiness is sure to follow. So why not beam with love and gratitude and soak up all the positivity that comes your way, then share it with others.

3.   When you find yourself having a bad day, don’t be easily swayed. We all have bad days, so don’t get stuck there. Instead, believe that tomorrow will be better – believe that- because you are in control, and you can make it better!

The love you have given yourself will energise you and encourage you when you need it the most. The best part about this is that you won’t find yourself seeking out the love – or affirmation from others – you will find that ‘you are enough.

4.   So, you had a couple of bad dates, someone bullied you, and another made you cry, and you are unsure how to bounce back. You can turn this around when you believe that with rejection comes resilience.

You won’t look at rejection as your ruin when you begin to love yourself. Instead, you’ll see each incident like this as an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself and others.

5.   This last tip is about becoming aware of your healing process. Come to terms with the fact that you will get hurt in life, but that doesn’t mean the pain has to last forever. Forgive so you can heal.

Acknowledge and accept your negative emotions and then let them go so that you can move forward and thoroughly enjoy living in the present and look forward in hope.

Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA. Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK. BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

Paula is an Ordained Minister, Blogger, Podcaster, Course Creator, Published Author and has a Master of Arts in Counselling and many other qualifications and a lifetime so, I have heaps to share with you.

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The Amazing mental benefits of mindfulness!

What is mindfulness?

I have taken notes from the NHS website to answer the question- What is Mindfulness?

Professor Mark Williams, former director of the Oxford Mindfulness Centre, says that mindfulness means knowing directly what is going on inside and outside ourselves, moment by moment.

“It’s easy to stop noticing the world around us. It’s also easy to lose touch with the way our bodies are feeling and to end up living ‘in our heads’ – caught up in our thoughts without stopping to notice how those thoughts are driving our emotions and behavior,” he says.

“An important part of mindfulness is reconnecting with our bodies and the sensations they experience. This means waking up to the sights, sounds, smells, and tastes of the present moment. That might be something as simple as the feel of a banister as we walk upstairs.

“Another important part of mindfulness is an awareness of our thoughts and feelings as they happen moment to moment.

“It’s about allowing us to see the present moment clearly. When we do that, it can positively change the way we see ourselves and our lives.”

mindfulness and mental wellbeing, Mindfulness helps your mental wellbeing

Becoming more aware of the present moment can help us enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better.

When we become more aware of the present moment, we begin to experience afresh things that we have been taking for granted. We ‘see’ with new eyes.

“Mindfulness also allows us to become more aware of the stream of thoughts and feelings that we experience,” says Professor Williams, “and to see how we can become entangled in that stream in ways that are not helpful.

“This lets us stand back from our thoughts and start to see their patterns. Gradually, we can train ourselves to notice when our thoughts are taking over and realize that thoughts are simply ‘mental events’ that do not have to control us.

“Most of us have issues that we find hard to let go and mindfulness can help us deal with them more productively. We can ask: ‘Is trying to solve this by brooding about it helpful, or am I just getting caught up in my thoughts?’

“Awareness of this kind also helps us notice signs of stress or anxiety earlier and helps us deal with them better.”

Mindfulness is recommended by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) as a way to prevent depression in people who have had 3 or more bouts of depression in the past.

See the NICE guideline on depression in adults.

How You can be more mindful

Reminding yourself to take notice of your thoughts, feelings, body sensations and the world around you is the first step to mindfulness.

Notice the everyday

“Even as we go about our daily lives, we can notice the sensations of things, the food we eat, the air moving past the body as we walk,” says Professor Williams. “All this may sound very small, but it has huge power to interrupt the ‘autopilot’ mode we often engage day to day, and to give us new perspectives on life.”

Consistent

It can be helpful to pick a regular time – the morning journey to work or a walk at lunchtime – during which you decide to be aware of the sensations created by the world around you.

See with new eyes

Trying new things, such as sitting in a different seat in meetings or going somewhere new for lunch, can also help you notice the world in a new way.

Watch your thoughts

“Some people find it very difficult to practice mindfulness. As soon as they stop what they’re doing, lots of thoughts and worries crowd in,” says Professor Williams.

“It might be useful to remember that mindfulness isn’t about making these thoughts go away, but rather about seeing them as mental events.

“Imagine standing at a bus station and seeing ‘thought buses’ coming and going without having to get on them and be taken away. This can be very hard at first, but with gentle persistence it is possible.

“Some people find that it is easier to cope with an over-busy mind if they are doing gentle yoga or walking.”

Be aware of thoughts and feelings

To develop an awareness of thoughts and feelings, some people find it helpful to silently name them: “Here’s the thought that I might fail that exam”. Or, “This is anxiety”.

Free yourself from the past and future

You can practice mindfulness anywhere, but it can be especially helpful to take a mindful approach if you realize that, for several minutes, you have been “trapped” in reliving past problems or “pre-living” future worries.

Different mindfulness practices

As well as practicing mindfulness in daily life, it can be helpful to set aside time for more formal mindfulness practice.

Mindfulness meditation involves sitting silently and paying attention to thoughts, sounds, the sensations of breathing, or parts of the body, bringing your attention back whenever the mind starts to wander.

Yoga and tai-chi can also help with developing awareness of your breathing.

Information:

You can watch this short mindful breathing exercise video on YouTube from Every Mind Matters.

Is mindfulness for everyone?

Mindfulness isn’t the answer to everything, however, try what works for you.

There’s encouraging evidence for its use in health, education, prisons, and workplaces, but it’s important to realize that research is still going on in all of these fields. Once we have the results, we’ll be able to see more clearly who mindfulness is most helpful for.

More tips for wellbeing is coming up in other blogs soon

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A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

Paula is an Ordained Minister, Blogger, Podcaster, Course Creator, Published Author and has a Master of Arts in Counselling and many other qualifications and a lifetime so, I have heaps to share with you.

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A Beginners guide to wellness in easy steps

What is Wellness?

In order to create a wellness lifestyle for ourselves, we need to understand what wellness actually is.

Wellness is defined as a condition of good physical health, mental health, especially when maintained by proper diet, exercise, and good habits.

Today, wellness is used not only in terms of health and fitness, but also wellness of mind-body, and spirit. The true form of wellness must include the whole person.

Including the whole person in wellness is called the holistic approach.

My mission and the aim of this website are to help others with their health and wellness holistically.

The wellness movement began in the 80s however I was interested in health and wellbeing way before then.

When I was about 13 or 14 new neighbors moved into our street, and as I got to know them, I found that they were different kinds of people that I was used to. They put a lot of emphasis on their diet and that of their children. These neighbors made everything homemade including bread, cakes, pies, biscuits, sauces, jams in fact- everything that one can consume. They carefully prepared and made what they ate from scratch with whole foods. They never bought anything canned or processed.

On several occasions, I was invited to a meal and I experienced a way of eating that was completely new to me but totally intrigued me. And so as I got older I went to work and I began to research these things for myself and realized that my wellness was my responsibility.

I started to understand that whatever I put into my body, how I treated my body, and the lifestyle I held to, all contributed to my wellness or illness.

So I began a lifelong love with wellness.

These pictures of me were taken recently- 2021 & 2022. They are not photoshopped, but I did have the benefit of good lighting. I was born in 1955 so technically that makes me an old lady. Although I do suffer from symptoms of arthritis, I am well otherwise. People mistake me for being a lot younger than I actually am, and I put this down to my holistic wellness lifestyle.

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Here in the UK, statistics show that 80% of people who pass through their GPs doors with major health problems that last more than a year down to one’s lifestyle. This is quite shocking, that is a lot of people who are ill because of the lifestyle that they have chosen.

We all have the power of choice. And what we choose for our health every single day contributes to our wellness or to our demise.

If our mind is healthy and we will look after our body, and if our body is functioning well our mind is clear and functioning in our spirit rejoices.

Holistic Health Lifestyle

What is holistic health? The term may conjure up all kinds of otherworldly ideas. Do you think of alternative medicine, naturopathy, or other Eastern-inspired health trends? If so, you’re at least partly right. However, this is not a cooky-spooky ideal; or a new fad. Conversely, the holistic approach is a scientific, intelligent approach to health and wellbeing. 

Therapeutics for Holistic health have been scientifically proven to work, and like alternative medicine, it focuses on wellness and prevention rather than just treating the problem. It gets to the ‘root’ of the cause and heals from the inside out. The holistic approach allows the body to maintain its health and heal itself as it is equipped. 

 Holistic health is about caring for the whole person by providing for your physical, mental, spiritual, and social needs. It is important to consider yourself holistically for health because your mind and body are linked and affect your overall health. Therefore, when I coach women, my approach is holistic. That’s why in my book Nothing Good about Grief– (link below), I include a holistic, mindful experience.

A long time ago, I learned that any method that separates our three parts is only putting a band-aid on the problem, and healing cannot manifest because of it. Therefore, it makes sense to address the whole, to gain wholeness for our being. 

The Role of a Holistic Health Care Provider

Medical doctors who take a holistic approach to health don’t just ask you about your symptoms. Instead, they ask you about your overall health and your life — they can make personalized recommendations to improve your wellness.

If you’re experiencing chronic pain, a holistic health care provider might prescribe medications or recommend surgery to repair an injury, but they’ll also recommend that you increase your endorphins naturally by getting more exercise. They’ll ask about your diet and discuss how certain foods contribute to inflammation. They’ll ask you about stress, anxiety, and depression — all of which can cause pain or be caused by it — and refer you to a therapist if you want one. They might also recommend massage to relax your muscles, acupuncture to help with nerve pain, or mindful meditation to help with pain management and stress relief. Simply put, rather than treating the pain, they’ll treat the ‘whole person. 

Apart from my personal interests in wellness, I am a professional counselor and coach. My role is to bring awareness to how to live well and provide coaching to those who are wanting some support on their wellness journey.

I want to share with you the love and grace that is held out to all of us to live your beautiful life well.

Think Holistically

You an exceptional being, comprising of a Mind, Body, and Spirit- that’s how you were made. So, in understating that, looking after yourself takes on a new perceptive- doesn’t it? That is how you maintain health and healing. You need to be well to function independently in this life.

Wellness is a big, important goal; however, it can feel overwhelming at times. You know you should eat healthier foods, drink more water, exercise seriously more often, sleep eight hours a night, give up your vices, and make more time for rest, meditation, and relaxation. But the busyness of work and life can make it hard to prioritize self-care, and the more you think about what you “should” be doing differently, the more daunting wellness can seem.

That’s where you have me as a coach comes in. Coaching will support you, give you the right tools and keep you on track to reach your wellness goals. Holistic health is about taking responsibility for your own health, and I will help you do that.

If you are doing something destructive to your healthy- being, recognize it for what it is, and endeavor to replace it with healthier habits of mind, body, and spirit.

Begin Somewhere

In my coaching practice, I empower you with education and motivation to make better choices. For example, rather than suggesting a long list of lifestyle changes, I include you in the conversation and help you to determine which changes would make the most significant impact on your health. I help you to set your wellness goals and then provide you with resources — whether that’s a personalized plan or an, if you need to go deeper – a counseling session.

Does the idea of living holistically interest you? Perhaps you would like more information? Contact me. I am happy to help you with any queries.

So, what is holistic health and wellbeing? It’s about honoring the mind-body connection by treating your whole person. It’s about caring for and loving your self- because you are a special human being!!

I look forward to your visit here and remember.

Your Best Life is Yet to Come!

Paula Rose Parish

Paula Rose has a Bachelor of Pastoral Counselling and Theology, Vision Christian University, USA. Master of Arts In Counselling & Professional Development, specializing in Spiritual Abuse The University of Derby, UK. BACP Life Coaching Course, Bristol, UK

A life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals.

Paula is an Ordained Minister, Blogger, Podcaster, Course Creator, Published Author and has a Master of Arts in Counselling and many other qualifications and a lifetime so, I have heaps to share with you.

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What happens when people misunderstand you, What can you do?

What happens when people misunderstand you? What can you do? How are you to react? 

This is more common than you think. 

People misunderstand each other’s actions, and reasons for those actions are more common than you think.  It happens in the best of loving families, in the most supportive workplace, and in solid relationships.  

A misunderstanding arises when one person judges another wrongly.   

What do they judge?  Well, it’s usually the behaviour of that person that is judged because that is the thing that is outwardly seen by all who would observe it.   

Often, the person or group judging the individual failed to ask the person’s feelings, motivations, and generally what was going on in their life at that time.  Therefore, the judgement is based on purely the persons own perceptions of the behaviours.  

The person or groups who judge another is seeing the situation from their own worldview.  So, what is a worldview?  

Clément Vidal (2008).  In his paper called- What is a worldview?  He proffers that the term “worldview” is often used to emphasize a personal and historical point of view.  Videl says further that it is necessary to have one and argues that the term is often used, unfortunately, without any precise definition.  This is interesting to me, and I will cover the outcomes of his research in another post.  

Why is it important to understand your worldview and how it works?  

The short answer is that Our worldview, no matter how narrow or wide, makes up who we are is as individual human beings.  Our worldview establishes our values, opinions, decisions, and our actions.  

So, get back to what happens when people misunderstand you.  The problem manifests itself when others judge you from their own worldview, in other words, from their own perspective of how things are and how things should be.  And how things are and how things could be may be completely different from the reality of what they are observing.  

We shouldn’t judge each other, but we do.  It seems to be an automatic human trait as we see the world from our own points of view and judge it accordingly.  So, it is not an unnatural or straightforward thing to do to walk a mile into somebody else’s shoes.  However, what we need to do is to walk a mile in somebody else’s shoes and try to see things from their perspective, from their reality.   

But this can only be done when one bothers to ask the person how they are feeling and why they are acting or reacting in a particular way.  

This takes effort.  Understanding things from someone’s perspective takes caring about the person enough that you want to know them from their point of view and what’s going on with them.  

Trying to ask questions takes time and effort.  Also, their idea of their own reality may clash with your perceptions, so you just don’t want to go there.  It is more comfortable staying with our own judgements, perceptions, and worldview of what’s going on with that person, group, or situation – even if they are misguided.  

This is why many relationships fail, problems arise within the best of families, and the workplace can become toxic.  In my experience, not wanting to understand another person’s reality and how they perceive it is more common than you think.  

A lot of reasons for this.  The subject is too vast and sensitive to be covered here, so that will be in another video or blog post in the future.  

What can you do?  How are you to react?  

The best way to react is to ensure that your reactions are positive and not harmful.  Anything negative will lead us to exasperation to the point there may be no return to that loving relationship or a happy work atmosphere.  Therefore, our initial reactions are vital to managing the best we can.  Today, I came across a graphic in my Facebook feed, and it says precisely what you can do and how you can react.  So, I am posting it on this page to share it with you.  

Do you agree that this message says it all?  We would all do well to adopt this philosophy for our everyday lives and consistently be reminded of it.  If we remind ourselves of these values, which is what they are, they are values to adopt when misunderstood.  They will hold you well, comfort you and give you a way forward even when you’re hurting.  

If you’re interested in knowing more about why it is important to have a worldview, let me know in the comments.  I would love to hear from you.  

If you are hurting because somebody has judged you wrongly and would like to talk and be supported, please contact me.  I would love to support you through either counselling or coaching.   

Thank you for reading this blog post.  I hope it was enjoyable and was helpful to you.  

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Paula is a Wellness Coach Ordained Minister, Blogger, Podcaster, Course Creator, Published Author and has a Master of Arts in Counselling and many other qualifications and a lifetime so, I have heaps to share with you. Paula is a life member of (ISFP) The International Society of Female Professionals

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The Quality of Life: EVERYONE WANTS IT – WHAT IS IT?

The Quality of Life: Is it essential?

Chronic diseases and symptoms can limit a person’s ability to perform daily activities, causing them to lose independence. If you want to change this, you need to place more focus on living well than living longer. However, when you emphasize living well, living longer is often the natural outcome anyway.

How Do I Improve My Health?

If you’re looking to improve your health-related quality of life, your meals and snacks should consist of primarily whole, plant-based foods, including fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, seeds, and whole grains. These kinds of foods consumed in your regular diet are less taxing upon your body’s organs than heavy protein such as meat. That also has a cleansing effect upon the blood, helping you avoid that dreaded plaque build-up within your arteries.

Animal products are okay to eat but make them more of secondary food, rather than your go-to food.

Should I take Supplements?

While eating a healthy diet is crucial, you can further improve your health-related quality of life by taking supportive supplements.

 I have taken supplements all my life. The soil and farming conditions are not what they used to be. Fields are not left fallow for one year anymore; therefore, the soil does not get a chance to rest and renew. So artificial chemicals have to be added to ensure a bumper crop. Whatever is in the soil is absorbed into the food and then you eat it. The same is with meat. The meat industry wants quick profits, so the animal is pumped with growth hormones to grow them faster and better to arrive on your plate a lot quicker. These growth hormones are absorbed into the animal’s tissue. To a measure, therefore, the consumer ingests it as well.

 For these reasons, I take supplements because they boost my immune system. So, the supplements will counteract anything that I may unwittily eat. Of course, this is not a guarantee, but my thinking is that if I look after my body the best I know how, then if I do get sick, I have a clear conscience because illness is not due to something that I did or neglected to do.

Good quality natural, anti-inflammatory supplement is an excellent way to support your joints and overall health. Supplements that combine research-backed, anti-inflammatory ingredients including turmeric root, Boswellia serrata extract, resveratrol, collagen (type II), black pepper extract, and hyaluronic acid work synergistically to improve joint comfort, mobility, and flexibility so you can live a healthier, happier life.

The conclusion is to Eat for Life. Eating for health benefits ensures a quality of life that will bring you joy every day. As a matter of course, responsible persons should take the time to educate themselves and their children about the benefits of healthy eating.

The life you choose to lead, no matter your level of education, the field of interest, or even your level of income, etc., does not affect your quality of life. There are plenty of unfit and unhealthy millionaires. There are plenty of unfit and unhealthy professors. So, stop making excuses and be determined to be fit, healthy, and well.

 After all, do you think you will have a good quality of life if your children or someone else is forced to look after you?

 You choose.

Paula Rose Parish MA.

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Tips on how to stay well when EXPERIENCING family estrangement

How to cope with family estrangement & manage emotions

 Families who fall out forever is more common than you think. For many people, family is the centrepiece of their life. It’s where we gain a massive aspect of our identity, find comfort and support, unconditional acceptance, and a sense of belonging. However, the family unit may become threatening and not feel as safe or nurturing for those estranged from their families.

In this article, I will discuss how to protect your mental and body health when

experiencing family estrangement. 

Social worker and academic Dr Kylie Agllias have researched family estrangements and how they impact one’s life. Dr Agllias research shows that 1 in 25 Australian adults has been estranged from their family at some time in their lives. Agllias points out that family estrangements occur when there is a breakdown of trust, emotional intimacy, and strong, contrasting values. 

Statics show in the United Kingdom that family estrangements are defined as the loss of affection within a family. Stand Alone, a UK charity (https://www.standalone.org.uk), supports people who are estranged from relatives. Stand Alone aims to break down the stigma around estrangement and support estranged people in their daily lives. They do this in many ways, and one of them is exploring the dynamics of estrangement. Stand Alone UK suggests that estrangement affects at least 1 in 5 British families. Most who were estranged from a parent strongly agreed with the idea that they could never have a functional relationship again. Stand Alone states that it isn’t clear if such estrangement is rising since it is a relatively young field of research. 

One United States of America study of more than 2,000 mother-child pairs found that 10% of mothers were estranged from at least one adult child. Further, another US study found that more than 40% of participants had experienced family estrangement at some point in their lives. This finding suggests that estrangement may be almost as common as divorce in certain groups, such as US college students. Sound like an epidemic, doesn’t it? 

All the research in Australia, the UK and the USA show that estrangement is a prolific social problem. I am sure the statics are similar across the world. It is a sad situation and one that is based on fact. If you have been estranged from your family, be assured that you are not alone. No matter where you reside in the world, you can find online help and resources.

Invest in people who genuinely love you

Those who genuinely love and care for you may not be your family. Friends are great because there is less of an expectation upon the relationship. We interact differently with friends than we do with our family. Further, there is no long-term history unless you have grown up with your friends, so you have a clean slate to build the relationship you want. Appreciate them and keep in contact with those people regularly. I have lots of lovely friends and have a unique relationship with each of them. With each one, we talk about different things and enjoy a variety of activities. Most friendships develop around common ground, and like all relationships, friendships must be nurtured to grow and be sustained.

Care for your Emotional Mind

Being misunderstood causes your inner gut to twist and turn to make you feel physically sick. This natural reaction is your body reacting to your emotional intelligence. Mike Oppland, BA, MBA, who submitted an article to Positive Psychology.com, states-

 ‘One cannot be emotionally intelligent without mindfulness of one’s emotions. Without consistent emotional intelligence, happiness is a mirage in the desert, seen but never reached.’ Mike Oppland, BA, MBA

Oppland points out that emotional intelligence is a creative skill to develop in your life that can help to ease relationships and provide a grounding element to emotional impulses. This is helpful when you are learning to manage your bruised emotions due to the trauma of estrangement. 

According to Oppland, there are three aspects of emotional intelligence

1. emotional awareness 

2. emotional application 

3. emotional management

As you learn to live with the consequences of estrangement from your loved one, each one of these aspects can uplift you to a new degree of ability when dealing with your own and others’ emotional reactions.

Mindfulness is a powerful tool that creates space between an action and your reaction.

These practices develop EI by bringing awareness to your emotions and those of people around you. It can also help you learn to apply and manage your emotions effectively through conscious thought and action.

Have you ever made use of mindfulness to regulate your emotions? I would love to hear from you in our comments section below.

Tips

1. When you become aware of your emotions triggering turmoil in your daily activities or upsetting your connection with others, give mindfulness a try.

2. As you learn how to live mindfully, you will experience increased self-awareness, providing you with a new sense of control.

Care for your Body

You must care for your body. Don’t bash it with alcohol or overload it with sugar or late nights out. Instead, nurture and care for your body with good food and passive or energetic exercise. 

Your body is the house that you live in. Over time through turmoil, we forget about our bodily needs. When upset, I tend to stop eating and work from sunup to sundown. However, I am learning to do things differently. I look at my body like I look upon my two dogs. They are helpless without me. Whether I feel like it or not, I must feed them, walk them, and stroke and groom them. I must provide a safe and enjoyable environment for them. Do the same for your body. 

Whether you feel like it or not, provide a safe and enjoyable environment for yourself. Feed your body well with natural foods, exercise it, groom it, care for it whether you feel like it or not – this is the only one you have! Your emotions can make you sick if you do not righty care for your body. I use many tools to help me with this, and in posts to come, I will share them with you. 

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CITATIONS

·      Agllias, K. (2016). Family Estrangement (1st ed.). Taylor and Francis. Retrieved from https://www.perlego.com/book/1568171/family-estrangement-pdf (Original work published 2016).

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POSSIBLE CAUSES OF YOUR Depression: and Risk Factors

What Causes Depression? 

 
Most of us have or will suffer depression at some time in our life. I have suffered a couple of times, and it’s certainly no joke to try to cope with – as well as a new baby, toddlers underfoot, and a husband who works away from home. 

There are many reasons for depression. The below image from VeryWellMind helps us to understand some of them. 

Depression: Causes and Risk Factors (verywellmind.com) 

All the above can cause depression and is well worth investigating. Research has shown that most depression is linked to hormonal or chemical imbalances in the body and could be an early warning sign of other problems going on inside the body.  

GET TESTED 
 
Testing by your local health care provider will determine the cause of your depression.  

If your depression is linked to hormonal or chemical imbalances, you may have a low-functioning thyroid gland. Correcting the thyroid function not only heals the depression but also improves your metabolism, energy, weight loss efforts, and more.  

That’s why it is so important to get at the root cause of your depression so you can heal the real problem, once and for all. 

 
You’ve probably heard of serotonin and dopamine. I know it’s hard to figure out how these things work, but it’s helpful if you have some idea how the chemical in your brain works and affect you. 

SEROTONIN AND DOPAMINE 

Your body may not be producing enough of these brain chemicals, which are often caused by nutrient deficiencies. Serotonin and dopamine are two neurotransmitters, or brain chemicals, that relay messages between nerve cells throughout your body. Serotonin works to keep your mood happy while dopamine helps you focus.  

Mood-regulating neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine can become depleted due to improper functioning of certain systems within your body, and there are many causes for this as the image above points out.  

When there is a deficiency in these neurotransmitters your mood, memory and other brain functions go haywire. Depression is one of the results of a neurotransmitter imbalance. 

  
YOU CAN TAKE ACTION 
What this means is that when you feed your body the proper nutrients and/or correct any hormonal problems through prescription drugs, you can restore your brain chemicals to the right levels and break free from depression. 

Seek advice, seek help and treatment, because Your Wellness Matters! 

Paula Rose Parish M.A. 

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HOW to LOVE Yourself 3 TIPS TO Self-Compassion

Self-compassion has a similar history as mindfulness in that it has existed in Eastern philosophy for over 2,000 years. However, it is a relatively new concept in Western research and practice (Neff 2003). 

In this article, I will discuss how mindfulness living helps with being compassionate toward oneself.

What is Self-Compassion?

Researcher Kristin Neff states that. 

‘the definition of “self-compassion” is related to the more general definition of “compassion.” compassion involves being touched by the suffering of others by opening one’s awareness to others’ pain and not avoiding or disconnecting from it so that feelings of kindness toward others and the desire to alleviate their suffering emerge.’

Self-compassion is showing oneself positive self-regard at all times, but especially when faced with life challenges. It is considered that compassion involves three components (Neff,2003).

  1. kindness, 
  2. common humanity
  3. aspects of mindfulness 

Neff (2003) points out that kindness entails understanding oneself and others. It is about not judging oneself or others, particularly during times of weakness, pain, or failure. Mindful awareness is employed to perceive one’s thoughts and emotions through an empirical perspective enabling individuals to avoid embodying their negative thoughts and feelings.

Mindful Self-compassion Remedy

When suffering from feelings of inadequacy, failure, emotional pain, and suffering, it is easy to get overwhelmed, which may cause physical illness. 

Our human existence consists of unexpected events, social conflict, fatigue, bodily ailments, problem-solving that contribute to or cause those stressors. 

Mindfulness and self-compassion together have proven to benefit individuals in dealing with every day and significant life stressors and problems. Further, mindful self-compassion may assist people to recover from psychological and emotional maladies. 

Understanding the potential value of mindful compassion research has found that individuals are more resilient through challenging times. In addition, Self-compassion has close links to self-worth and aspects of emotional intelligence (I outlined this in my last blog article).

Researchers discovered that self-compassion to have similar outcomes to self-esteem(Neff, 2003). However, a significant difference between self-compassion and self-esteem is that self-compassionate individuals do not experience some of the pitfalls of self-esteem. One of the pitfalls of self-esteem is that it can be subject to changing moods. For example, if one regards oneself negatively when failing a task, their mood may become low. Conversely, however, they may experience a high mood when excelling at a task. Thus, self-esteem can be boosted by not facing one’s inadequacies and denying that they exist. 

In contrast, high self-compassion individuals can accept negative aspects of the self and take responsibility for addressing problems. Moreover, they can achieve this consistently because they do not need to hide painful truths about themselves to maintain positive self-regard, which is often the case in self-esteem. 

Thus, self-compassionate individuals tend to be more aware of and capable of addressing problems, resilient through difficulties and improving their skill set. 

Three tips to attain Self-compassion and why it is important

Forgive Yourself. Forgiveness means accepting what has happened and the behaviours and being willing to move on without worrying about things that cannot be controlled or changed. As a therapist, I learned this approach to self-forgiveness, which is also the Biblical way to forgiveness. The below method suggests that four key actions can help you to forgive yourself.

The 4 R’s of Self-Forgiveness

  1. Responsibility
  2. Remorse
  3. Restoration
  4. Renewal

Forgiving oneself is beneficial for any excellent mental, physical and relationship health. 

Letting go and forgiving oneself can help boost feelings of wellness and improve self-confidence. The act of forgiveness can also positively impact physical health.

 Have you heard the expression “he has eaten up with hate”? Science and the Bible tell us that unforgiveness can manifest itself negatively in our physical bodies. If we can’t forgive ourselves, then it will be impossible to forgive others. 

Have you heard the expression keep your opinions to yourself? That is the philosophy that many individuals are raised under. As a result, individuals may become fearful of what others think of them. Therefore, to avoid conflict, they express no personal opinion. To avoid upset, they learned to keep their opinions to themselves. The problem with this approach is that one forgets what is important in their own life and tend to live ‘through’ other people’s experiences.

Love yourself- Do Things That Make you Happy

Someone once said, ‘you were not born to live just to pay the bills then die’. No, you are more highly valued than that!

If you are happy, you will be more productive, motivated, and fulfilled. So when the alarm sounds, you will bounce out of bed in the morning, ready to begin ad brand new day with its challenges. However, if you are unhappy, you will be more likely to pull the covers over your head when the alarm sounds because you can’t face your day.

If you are happy within yourself, it will become self-evident. You will automatically spread positivity, love and joy, and Others will notice and want to be around you. After all, who wants to cosy up to a grump? Mindfulness and self-compassion are congruent in coping with life stressors.

Neff rightly sums up the congruence between self-compassion and mindfulness with the flowing quote- 

‘mindfulness is concerned with the functions of “the mind,” and self-compassion is concerned with “the heart.” Thus, mindfulness brings the elements of awareness, a nonjudging attitude, and reflection, while self-compassion is a caring guide for individuals to integrate needed personal changes while maintaining a positive attitude toward the self’ (Neff 2003).

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CITATION

Neff, C. (2003). Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself.https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/publications/ Psychology Press

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My Lovely Mindfulness life

  

I found that the mindfulness lifestyle benefited my health and total wellbeing. Be sure to watch the video where I share more of my experience in mindfulness. 

My Routine  

Most days I now start with a Bible reading, meditation, and prayer. I find it helps set me up for a focused and relaxed start to the day. I then do a workout that may last up to 45 mins. I ensure that I approach my exercise Mindfully, to get the very best out of it.  I do another prayer /meditation before bed which I’ve found helps me to totally unwind so I can have some better-quality sleep.  

I would not have created this blog, videos, my course, and books if it wasn’t for mindfulness which has acted as a therapy in so many ways for me. Therefore, I am totally enthusiastic about mindfulness and want others to benefit from it too. 

 My Why 

Apart from understanding the benefits of mindfulness, I believe I am called to share hope, faith, and love, that our maker bestows, and mindfulness has all those elements. 

So, I am pleased to write about my own journey I have read that it’s a waste of my time and my energy to tell everyone how amazing mindfulness is and how much it has helped me in my everyday life. I found a problem with this idea that in my enthusiasm, it’s but hard to put into practice when something has changed your life so profoundly! Also, haven’t we a responsibility to help enhance the lives of others, in any way we can? 

Over Thinking 

All my life, I have carried for my mind, body as well as soul the best I could,  however, I was always an overthinker which made me anxious, which lead to a habit of being a worrywart. 

I enjoy being well organized and want to be always one footstep ahead of myself, so I set out a project plan to run for every quarter of the year. However, looking ahead to my goals, I can overthink them and fail to focus on the task in front of me. 

Also, in a social setting My mind would grind ahead to projects so when I should be enjoying the moment, in my head I was planning things out. 

 I would overthink to the point that I would out plan my life and worry about the possible circumstances of my old age or death ( I officiate at a lot of funerals) . 

The past would catch up with me as I worried about the stupid things I should not have said or done, and the good things that I should have said and done. 

So basically, I supposed everyone did this, that their minds were bursting with stuff they were thinking, stuff they wanted to say, all the time.  

The problem was that I would burn out from all the overthinking and worry. my poor limited mind would overload with it all, the consideration of the past, present, and future. 

 I once was in an abusive marriage. It was then I developed panic attacks that went on for hours, and with the overthinking/worrying habits my suffering was made worse. 

With the upset, my stomach would twist and churn till I felt sick. I would often ruse to the loo because of diarrhoea that was caused by nervousness. each morning I dreaded waking up because I knew I would be anxious and physically ill before I even began my day. The possibilities of things through the day to worry about were massive. I am also very dyslexic, so I shied away from anything to do with the discussion, writing, or public speaking as much I could. Due to my dyslexia, form filling out, writing, and reading caused me GREAT anxiety.  

Recovery 

I was eventually diagnosed with depression, general anxiety disorder, and irritable bowel syndrome. I did not want to take medications for all of them but opted to change my diet and lifestyle instead. 

 I wanted to heal the natural way by becoming more self-aware, so when I discovered Mindfulness I felt liberated!  The bonus was that by connecting Mindfulness with my lifestyle and the health of my mind, body, or soul, I felt in control of my life once again.    

 I found that for me mindfulness worked well if I made it a ‘lifestyle’ rather than as a practice where one dips in and out. By way of practice, I would forget to be mindful but making it a lifestyle soon became second nature.  

The detail of creating well-habits is dealt with in another blog post.  

The Takeaway 

For good mental health, Mindfulness is a beautiful way to conquer thoughts that produce stress, particularly in the first stages when you feel overwhelmed with the damaging assault of thoughts. 

 

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This Blog is very New, growing, and developing, so keep an eye out for updates. If you’ve enjoyed this article, Come back here as I post regularly.

Take Care

Paula Rose Parish MA

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 Feel free to contact me if you need support, coaching or share any thoughts you may have – we are on this journey together through life.

 I look forward to your next visit here and remember–

                LIVE in HOPE, FAITH & LOVE because Your Best Life is Yet to Come! 

Paula is an Ordained Minister, Blogger, Podcaster, Course Creator, Speaker,Published Author and has a Master of Arts in Counselling and Life Coaching.

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Stop SEEKING Validation from others- Its a TRAP !

I have spent most of my childhood and a good portion of my adult life seeking approval from parents, siblings, and other authority figures. So many people I know seem to be striving to gain the approval of others, whether it’s their parents, their adult children and grandchildren, their bosses, friends, or even the virtual friends over social media platforms. It took me a long time to realise that gaining the approval of others is a lose-lose mindset to have. 

When we strive to gain the approval of others, we become trapped within our own mindset. As a result, we adjust our lives and even ourselves, so others will love us. We can lose our very identity and lose complete touch with who we really are as autonomous human beings in the process. Sadly, this mindset can lead to serious mental health problems.

In this article, I want to deal with why we may seek the approval of others and a few steps on how to free ourselves from the addiction of seeking approval.

Seeking Approval from Others is an Addiction

 The first thing to say about this is that very often, seeking approval is so ingrained within our character from earliest childhood that we think it’s just the way we are. We often don’t realise that this mindset is foreign to who we really are as a personality. Others may perceive you as lovable and willing to help. You may be those things genuinely as a person, but it becomes a trap when those things are adopted to seek approval from others. Seeking approval is something that we unconsciously adopt to survive what we perceive as rejection. Therefore, we create somebody who really is not really you. We become more lovable, more agreeable, and we can even participate in activities that are really against our better judgement and what we really want to be involved in. I have been a psychotherapist and church minister for 40 years now, and during that time, I have encountered people trapped in all sorts of addictions. In my experience, one of the most potent addictions anyone can have is seeking the approval of others. As I have said, I once sought others approval which left me with low self-esteem and avoiding the company of others. The problem is, seeking the approval of others can become such an addictive habit that there seems no way out. In fact, when it becomes an addiction, one is not aware of the hold upon one’s life. One just acts and reacts very often nonsensically, without thought, and indeed without reason.

How You Know that you Seek approval

Detecting if you seek approval is not particularly easy. So, it’s best to ask yourself some honest questions and for you to respond as candidly and honestly as you possibly can.

My recommendation is to write the questions out and underneath right your answer. Writing it down on a piece of paper can often help you reflect and think in a more profound way than you might otherwise. So, write these questions down on your piece of paper.

1. Do you ever feel less than adequate?

2. Do you notice yourself comparing yourself to others?

3. When you compare yourselves with others, do you feel like a failure?

4. Do you find yourself being overly agreeable with others even when you disagree?

5. Do thoughts come into your mind to contribute to a conversation but drawback from doing so because you feel that your opinion might be wrong or say the wrong thing?

6. Are you overly sensitive to people’s negative perceptions, words and actions towards you?

7. Are you highly self-critical?

8. Do you avoid and feel very uncomfortable around conflict to the point where you allow problems to go unresolved?

I could place other questions in there, but I think that’s enough to get started with. Take your time over these questions. You don’t have to answer them all in one sitting. After all, you’re dealing with not only a mindset but deep emotions that have been there for a very long time. So don’t overburden yourself and answer those questions in one sitting; however, do schedule a couple of days or more to address each question thoughtfully, honestly, and in detail as much as you feel that you can write.

To aid you in answering these questions, think back to when you were younger. Were you ordered by your parents or other authority figures to respect the opinion and demands of your elders without question? Why did you do this?

Think back to your teenage years. Did you change your personality, how you dressed, and how you thought for the benefit of fitting into the group? Also, ask yourself why you changed yourself to suit others.

As an adult, do you tend to harken back to such behaviours even though they may be subtle? Why do you think that you do this?

There are no right and wrong answers. If you try to seek self-approval, they can get stuck in their minds of right and wrong answers and become frustrated and abandon any attempt to answer any of these questions. There is no right or wrong; your reflections and feelings what is important here. You won’t be sharing this with anyone else, so you need not fear any judgement from others. The point is it does not matter what other people think. If you find yourself judging yourself or that is a good thing, you have become aware of what you need to work on. 

These are essential questions and worthy of time and consideration if you desire to change your mindset and discover yourself.

You may not like what you have written down because coming face-to-face to yourself can be very emotionally painful. So, resist the temptation of screwing up the piece of paper and throwing it in the bin. I remember as a teenager, when I discovered journaling, I bought myself a really nice journal and began to share my thoughts with pen and paper. I didn’t like what I saw and began to understand myself, so I promptly not only screwed up the piece of paper but also binned the whole journal, never approaching the idea of journaling the many years. 

When you lose that constant inner nagging voice that needs the approval of others, you gain freedom. And that is your goal for answering these questions is freedom sweet freedom. In my next blog post and video, we will go another step about how we can gain freedom from the approval of others. 

Do not see this as a mountain before you because that will defeat you before you even start. See, this exercise is a practical challenge that may be painful, yes, but you will get through it and gain the freedom you so desperately want and deserve!

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HOW TO AVOID OVERWHELM -A HEALTHY MINDSET

These days we’re bombarded with so many ideas of what it means to be ‘healthy. But what does it actually mean to be ‘healthy’? Is it going to the gym every day? Have glowing hair and skin? Drinking green juices? Walking 10,000 daily steps? How about wearing jogging shoes from dawn until dusk?!


Health and appearance often get confused. Some people judge health on how they look, for example, their body shape and size, but this isn’t always a sure indicator. Everyone is different, and just because someone is bigger or smaller than someone else doesn’t mean they are healthier or unhealthier. There is a lot we don’t know and cannot see.


If asked, ‘what does it mean to be healthy’, each of us will come up with our own version of that question; we all have our personal version of what optimum health and well-being is. As far as your bodily health is concerned, your health provider is the best place to go for advice on your optimum health should be. I believe that general good health, mind, body, and soul, whatever it may look like for you, begins with a healthy mindset.

What is a Healthy Mindset?

  1. Decide – A healthy mindset is deciding that Healthy living is about respecting my mind, respecting my body. I can make positive and informed decisions to look after my health while remembering that what goes into my body and what I do with it can affect my mind and spirit (the essence of you) because everything’s connected.
  1. Do– A healthy mindset is taking charge of my own health with consistent action upon what I have decided to care for myself.
  1. Maintain- A healthy mindset is about maintaining my overall health to adapt as my mind, body, and spirit grow and change.

Remember, nothing is more important than looking after yourself. If you don’t look after yourself, how can you be energetic, fit, and well to maintain your world’s responsibilities or look after others?

How to maintain a healthy Mind Set

If you view your mind in the same way as you do your body, it will be easier to understand how to look after it. Your mind is not on automatic pilot to be healthy. However, you must maintain your health. Therefore, if you have a healthy mind, it follows that you will have a healthy mindset. Whether it’s seeking out a therapist, playing a sport, or creating art, find a way to express your emotions. When we go through difficult things without a way to express them, it can get bottled up inside and cause us negative reactions in our minds or body.


I’m a huge fan of self-care. I don’t just leave it to the health professionals to care for me, I take responsibility for my own health. During the off-and-on lockdowns in the past year, I have found it’s almost impossible to access any kind of professional health care anyway! Regular self-care is about maintaining good health and prevention. If we have a healthy mindset we will DECIDE, DO and MAINTAIN to prevent burnout, stress, and exhaustion. A huge part of having a good mindset is listening to your body, and treating it with love and respect. If your body needs a break, let it rest. If you need energy, go for a run. If your body needs sustenance, eat a healthy meal. Do the things that help you feel your best!

Therapeutic Activities
To create a healthy mindset, I have found that writing is such a therapeutic practice and such a great outlet. I practice prayers and devotions each morning, and I write my thoughts in a journal. At each day’s end, within 20 words, I jot down my all-over event and make a few comments. Find what works for you and make time for that thing as much as possible. This help to sort and clear my mind, and one would be an email in-box.
Some other ideas for maintaining a healthy mindset is- :

  • Dancing
  • Working out
  • Singing
  • Building something
  • Making crafts
  • Walking mindfully

Benefits of a Healthy Mind Set

Some of which include:· Increased mental clarity, happiness, and energy.· Decreased stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.· More self-awareness and alignment with the highest version of your best self.

Who is it for?

If you want to improve your lifestyle by becoming their very best self-adjust your mindset to one that works for you. Whatever skills and habits weigh you down, living with a focused and clear mind can help you to address any problems. Learning to be in control over your mind, can be taught to anyone of any age, ability, or life circumstances. As long as you are looking to heal, enrich or empower their life with joy bringing peace and calm then adjusting your mindset will benefit you.

On Becoming Self Aware

Developing a healthy mindset is not something you possess do but more about who you become, which will affect the wellness of your mind, body, and spirit.


If your mindset is balanced it will be easy to embrace mindfulness which means learning to live in the moment and making the most of that moment. An added benefit of mindfulness is that you will become more self-aware.
Making it a goal to become self-aware is one of the most freeing things you can do. Often, we don’t’ begin to become aware of our bodies until we become sick. It is then that we tend to take an interest in how our body works and what foods and exercise might help us get well. But for some of us, it’s all too late when illness has taken hold, and a long recovery is ahead or no recovery at all. Becoming self-aware will help you to learn is about ‘prevention’ rather than just cure. It’s getting a few steps ahead of the game and consistently making good lifestyle choices for your total well-being.

About Holistic Living.

I take a holistic approach to my personal life and work. It’s about making changes by’ becoming’ rather than ‘doing’. When we ‘become’, the ‘doing’ results naturally. It’s about allowing your very being, which is comprised of Mind, Body, and Spirit, to emerge and become better. Holistic living works toward wholeness and draws in the care and growth of yourself. It enables you to establish balance in all areas to be a healthier, happier You, to live a more fulfilling life.

Benefits of a Healthy Mindset Wellness in mental health, spirituality, and a healthier body are the main benefits of a healthy mindset. If you think in a healthy way, you will take healthy actions for example,


· Balanced emotional and physical well-being· Better interpersonal relationships· Reduced stress· Improved productivity· Relief of chronic ailments· Enhanced environment understanding· Your relationships, · Career and finance balance · Personal growth· Spiritual development These benefits are achieved by -· Developing a new paradigm (mindset)· Developing a realistic daily routine· Establishing daily Well-Habits that nourish your Mind, Body & Spirit.

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If you’re asking yourself, “do I need a life coach?” it’s likely that Coaching would benefit you. Here are a few more signs – maybe you;· You want a change of lifestyle and are not sure how to go about it.· You want to live a more healthy, well-balanced life.· You want encouragement to set goals and get those projects done.· You want to establish your life purpose.· You’re stuck in self-destructive habits that you want freedom from· Your inner thoughts and self-talk are negative.· You’ve recently made a significant life change or undergone a stressful event.· You continually feel overwhelmed and need support.· You suffer from fear of failure or something else that keeps you from reaching your goals (i.e.) one step forward- two steps back.· Or You are an adult dyslexic and need support. Recognize yourself in any of these? If you do, make the decision to contact me today and begin the journey to a happier, more confident, and fulfilled self.

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My purpose is to support people to build a healthy mindset. I provide an integrative holistic, lived experience model. My focus is wellness in mind, body, and spirit because if these three are in sync, your will achieve your purpose and ideal lifestyle. To this end, I have created an integrative transformational intervention methodology to support you step by step. You will…· Gain clarity in your purpose and find meaning – Get clear and focused on the goals and objectives that will radically change your life in the next year.
· Achieve your goals – Feel more energy, more vitality, and more accountability from a coach who pushes you.
· Ignite passion in your profession and relationships – Remove beliefs that are sabotaging you from genuine connection and discover the key to fulfilment. Professionally trained with a Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development and Coaching, With over 40 years of experience, I will support you to maximize your full potential. You will identify your goals and receive balanced teaching, great tips, guidance, and encouragement throughout your journey to becoming a better version of yourself.

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How to Eat Mindfully to stay healthy over Christmas

Many people look forward to the Christmas season, where the birth of Saviour Jesus Christ is celebrated. Visiting relatives and friends and enjoying the break from the general routine can be a welcome opportunity to relax.

 However, for many others, it can be a season of dread. For whatever reason, some have been estranged from their families or friends and will spend this time alone. For others, maybe busyness of the season leave them totally exhausted and grumpy. However, you may spend Christmas and the New year; the season draws us away from our usual routines and habits that keep us on an even keel. Frequent disruptions can leave us feeling unsettled and not particularly jolly!

This is a time that we should not neglect self-care. Neglecting to care for our wellbeing may lead to stopping us from enjoying the festive season, and we don’t want that! Before, during and after Christmas and New year, you need to take the time to look after yourself mindfully – even if it’s just in a small way.

As you know, I am a big fan of mindfulness because it brings my mind in sync with my health and wellbeing. For example, mindfulness can play a part because when you enjoy your food and are at peace when you eat, it aids your digestion and assimilation, therefore crucial to your overall health. 

If you are following me, you will know that there is far more to mindfulness than a short blog can contain. This is because I have so much to share. Therefore, I am writing another book on Mindfulness Living, which features issues around mental health. It will be published and made available to you later in 2022 – so keep a lookout for that! 

Here are Important Mindful Tips to help you stay well and

relaxed over the festive season and into the new year.


If you are anything like me, it’s so easy to over-indulge and stop paying attention to what you’re putting in your mouth, how you are eating, or how much you’re’ actually eating. Mindful eating slows us down to appreciate what we’re eating. 

Eat Mindfully 

Make it your primary focus not to get distracted when eating and ensure you enjoy the meal.

Mindfulness is also a great practice to stop you from overeating. Mindfulness eating is simple- think about your body and stop eating when you feel full – and eat only when you feel hungry, not just because you want to or have to.

We grab a bite or two wherever we can. Without thinking about it, we eat in our cars, at our desks, walking up the street or in front of the telly, and before you know it, we have polished off far more than we should have! We lament at our growing waistline or that sickly feeling that comes with overeating. 

Overeating may become a habit but is not an ideal approach to eating and may cause digestive problems.

To eat mindfully, we need to develop god Well- Habits as I call them. When we develop the habit of eating mindfully, it will come naturally without any deliberate effort. The healthy- habit of tuning in to all the sensations while eating will make eating food a more meaningful experience and healthier for you in the long run. Develop the habit to become aware of your bodily sensations when hungry and the right time to stop feeling that hunger. 

Mindful eating is a habit to be developed to become aware when you feel satisfied and have enough to eat. Practice the following exercise in a place where it is unlikely that you will be interrupted. 

How to Eat Mindfully

  • Find a quiet space and make it enjoyable. 
  • Put your food on excellent dishes.
  • Use good cutlery you enjoy using.
  • Sit down in front of your food and take several deep breaths. 
  • Notice the colour.
  • Notice the shape of the food.
  • Notice the texture – is it appealing to you? 
  • Ask yourself, how does it smell? 
  • Notice how the food makes you feel (excited, reminiscent, happy or anxious -other). 
  • Notice these things as you begin eating. 
  • Slow down, Don’t rush to eat- take it slow.
  • Move your hand slowly toward the cutlery, being mindful of the below steps
  • Begin to eat Mindfully.
  • Watch your hand move the utensil toward your mouth, becoming aware of the smell.
  • Notice how your body reacts to the food near your mouth and notice your teeth chewing the food. 
  • Ask yourself, how is the food positioned in my mouth? Begin chewing slowly. What are the sensations in your mouth, on your tongue? 
  • Notice what tastes you are experiencing -such as salty, sour, and sweet? 
  • When you swallow, become aware of the movement of your throat, and try to become aware of the food entering your stomach. 
  • Ask yourself, can I feel it in my stomach? Is it empty, complete, or somewhere in between? 
  • Notice when your stomach begins to feel complete.

Go for a Mindful Walk

Over Christmas, after a few days, cabin fever begins to set in We react to being cooped up with the same people– and you end up in a mindless slump watching repeats of old movies and eating and drinking far too much- No thanks.

Walking meditation involves deliberately thinking about and doing a series of actions that you usually do automatically. At first, thinking about these steps may feel awkward, even ridiculous. But, even if you feel a little silly, try to observe at least these four essential components of each step: 

1- the lifting of one foot. 

2- the moving of the foot a bit forward of where you’re standing. 

3- the placing of the foot on the floor, heal first. 

4- the shifting of the body’s weight onto the forward leg as the back heel lifts while the toes of that foot remain touching the floor or the ground. Then the cycle continues…

5- lift your back foot totally off the ground. 

6- observe the back foot as it swings forward and lowers. 

7- observe the back foot as it contacts the ground, heel first. 

8- feel the weight shift onto that foot as the body moves forward.

It may be icy outside- or it really depends on where in the world you are but try to get outdoors. If you can walk in a forest, nature reserve, or the beach- let the wind blow through your hair! If this is not possible, take a leisurely walk around a local park which is enough to clear your mind and blow away the cobwebs.

Continue to eat the meal this way, noticing as many sensations as you can.

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Your Wellness Matters!

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9 Tips to keep your mind healthy and sharp: Your Wellness Matters! 

Challenging your brain regularly can have incredible long-term effects. Here are  why it’s important to keep your brain sharp:

Increased Memory Capacity

When you keep your mind sharp by challenging it to learn new things, your brain works harder. As a result, your memory capacity increases.

A well-known and interesting study, that you can find on  London taxi drivers and bus drivers: a structural MRI and neuropsychological analysis – PubMed (nih.gov) it was discovered that London taxi drivers had a larger hippocampus which is the area of the brain that forms and accesses memories than London bus drivers. This was because the taxi drivers had the daily challenge of finding and navigating numerous streets on demand, unlike bus drivers who follow a set route.

Increased Cognitive Capacity

By regularly challenging your brain, you’re improving and strengthening the connective tissue in your brain’s neurons which helps them perform better and quicker. One can challenge one’s brain in a variety of ways. For example

  1. Learn a new language
  2. Puzzles that challenge you
  3. Learn Meditation because it gives you the ability to gain full control over your mind and how you react to the world. 
  4. Keep Fit. There’s an abundance of evidence that shows how important exercise is not only for a healthy body, but a healthy mind also.
  5. Reading is one of the best ways to increase your mental capacity. Because of my dyslexia I had never read a full book until I was well into my 20s. I didn’t know I was dyslexic until I was In my late 40s, but the teachers told me I was just lazy- which I knew wasn’t true. I could have stayed in that mode, but I wasn’t happy that I wasn’t learning anything, and I wanted to be challenged. So, it was then that I decided to bite the bullet and learnt read properly. People who read a lot of books are better at recalling information than non-readers. That’s why you should read more books and publications on a wide variety of subjects, and just challenge your brain! Rather than wasting hours vegging out in front of a TV, which was easy to do during the COVID pandemic- or social media-ing mindlessly on your phone, check out books to read at your public library or on-line
  6. Spend time with people who are motivated, focused and want to learn and grow the way you do https://naturalife.org/mind/motivational-inspirational-quotes. Challenge yourself that includes other people. Trip the Light Fantastic! Dancing is a social interaction that helps in sharpening your brain, while improving your coordination. I like board games but not much else. But you may be different.  Research shows that When you participate in interactive, challenging games and activities with others you’re 65% to 75% more likely to remain sharp and prevent memory disorders from occurring, such as Alzheimer’s and other neurodegenerative diseases.
  7. Adequate Sleep is so important for not only refreshing your memory but healing your brain also. The older I get the more I suffer from disturbed sleep. Even if you do everything possible to improve your cognitive abilities, your brain still won’t function as well as it should if you fail to get enough sleep. After trying it all and reading all the books, for me, I rise from bed at 5am and get into bed by 9pm and then read for an hour and find that this helps me to sleep all night. I feel so much better for it, getting quality sleep can help your brain recover after a frantic day. Try what works for you and don’t watch TV, or your electric devise after 9pm, or you may be awake all night!
  8. Stop cramming the information in your head! Instead, When you’re trying to recall something you’ve just read or heard, repeat the information out loud as well as write it down. This helps to imprint the new facts to your memory. This is one of the skills I learnt as a Dyslexic but for everyone it’s a wonderful habit to get into enhancing your memory. However, don’t just repeat the information several times and then not review it later. Instead, plan to go over it again shortly. Review the new information every few hours throughout the day, every day, until it becomes embedded in your mind and becomes a habit. When you space out periods of study, you’re helping to improve your memory.
  9. Make Schedules. I had to face it that If I don’t make a schedule- stuff just doesn’t get done. Today’s business world is exceptionally competitive and busy. That’s why making schedules and prioritizing should be a requirement for your personal development growth rather than an option. We all know that time flies by, so time management is of extreme importance if you want to advance in your personal and professional development.

The above tips will help you expand your brain function. This process, known as neuroplasticity, is how your brain expands its capacity. Put simply, neuroplasticity, which is also called “brain plasticity”, is your brain’s ability to go through physiological or structural changes.

Delayed Natural Aging Mental Decline

Although cognitive decline is usually inevitable with aging, it’s possible to delay the symptoms and beat the odds of developing dementia and other forms of memory loss.

Bu making the effort and just by doing some simple, well-constructed brain exercises, you can improve neuroplasticity. As a result, you stand a greater chance of overcoming the decline of mental functioning that naturally occurs with aging – and that GREAT NEWS!

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Hello! I’m Paula Rose Parish

Thanks for being here. This is my first blog post on Your Wellness Matters, so let me share just a little about myself. I am a grandmother and I have a Social Science Master of Arts in Counselling in Professional Development, an Ordained Minister, Published Author, Life Coach. Paula has published 2 books relating to Coping during the Covid-19 Pandemic, loss, grief, and difficult times, and is working on the third book about Mindfulness.  In addition, she has extensive experience as an NHS hospital chaplain in mental health, hospice, general ward, maternity, and staff support.

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I am interested in health and wellbeing and enjoy sharing what I have learned with others.

 Like many of us, I have had health issues and found the natural way to health and healing of benefit to me. I believe that prevention is better than cure so to stay health and well, we must learn what is it that can assist that. I am interested in holistic health and wellbeing which encompasses  the mind and body experience. Over many years, I have   researched many aspect of it, and  enjoy sharing what I have learned with others. This blog is a way I can share with you, and start the conversation on the health and well- being.

Holistic living is those who want to improve their lifestyle.  Whatever difficulties weigh us down, living holistically can address any problems we may have. Living the holistic way is for anyone of any age, ability, or life circumstances, looking to heal, enrich or empower their life with joy bringing well- being peace and calm.

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